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The sexual mind

Sexuality is about our motivation to use our imagination to explore sexual fantasies.

How a woman can interest a man in having sex

Humans (and other primates) have sex much more than is required purely for the purposes of reproduction. So, even men are not motivated by a purely biological drive. There are intellectual and emotional factors. Our minds are aroused to varying degrees by the opportunity to have sex with different sexual partners or in different scenarios.…

Only some men are motivated to offer foreplay

Alfred Kinsey was an empirical scientist. He liked facts and figures. He categorised people according to their educational level. Kinsey pointed out that sex manuals are often written by middle class educated people who don’t appreciate that their education affects their view of sexuality. He found that more educated men tend to appreciate eroticism: visual…

Men sexualise women to assist with their arousal

Men’s sexual discussions tend to revolve around turn-ons because they find such conversations arousing. So men build up a fantasy world around women’s sexuality. When women say nothing, men assume that women are agreeing with them. But women rarely comment on sex. Neither are they typically interested in defining their own sexuality. So having no…

Some people enjoy abstract eroticism & fantasy

Sexuality is about our motivation to explore our fantasies both during masturbation alone and during sex play with a lover. Our ability to reach orgasm ultimately depends on what happens in the brain. Yet we rarely acknowledge the psychological aspects of sex. Other primates have higher rates of responsiveness than humans. Social restrictions limit the…

Women’s fantasies are sexually explicit scenarios

Women who masturbate to orgasm rarely talk about the pleasure they enjoy for a number of reasons. Most other women react with evident disgust if masturbation is ever mentioned. If a woman tells a male partner, he may interpret it as a turn-on and want to have intercourse. Women are also embarrassed to admit the…

The nature of the fantasies women use for arousal

Men typically achieve orgasm through masturbation much more quickly than a woman does. This is because men are aroused at the start of any sexual activity. They have a basic biological arousal that makes it easy for a younger man to be aroused almost spontaneously. Men are also aroused by many triggers in the everyday…

How we know that female orgasm is uncommon

The research clearly indicates that women orgasm most easily through masturbation alone. But how can we deduce that this experience is relatively uncommon and hence that few women orgasm by any means? Let’s take a look at some of Kinsey’s statistics and think about what they might tell us. Kinsey and his team held private…