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The sexual mind

Sexuality is about our motivation to use our imagination to explore sexual fantasies.

Understanding a man’s need for erotic turn-ons

Men attribute sexual phenomenon to female anatomy as part of their arousal process. They need to believe that the women they are attracted to are different to their female relatives. But they can be embarrassed by these images of sexual women from pornography, recognising on some level that real women are offended by such a…

An arousal trigger is either an object or a concept

Each generation of men thinks that women of their generation are more sexual than any previous generation of women. This is because young men are aroused by young women’s bodies. But our responsiveness does not depend on how we look. Responsiveness depends on what happens in the mind. Arousal occurs when the mind responds positively…

Some people enjoy abstract eroticism & fantasy

Sexuality is about our motivation to explore our fantasies both during masturbation alone and during sex play with a lover. Our ability to reach orgasm ultimately depends on what happens in the brain. Male arousal tends to be automatic with a lover, so we often focus on the mechanics of sex. But the psychological aspects…

How we know women do not orgasm with a lover

Intercourse and cunnilingus involve different female anatomy. During intercourse a woman is assumed to respond in a way that is complementary to the male anatomy. She is supposed to orgasm through stimulation of the vagina. By contrast, during cunnilingus a woman is assumed to respond in a way that mirrors a man’s anatomy. In this…

Why couples don’t discuss female arousal

Much of the sexual activity between heterosexuals is carried on without communication. Once intimacy has been established, by kissing for example, a man assumes that he has been accepted. He then increases his exploration of a woman’s body. A woman responds by allowing him access to her body. There is no explicit discussion. A man…

Women fake orgasm to reassure men’s sexual ego

Kinsey’s research revealed that some women orgasm when masturbating alone. Previously no one even dreamed that women were even capable of orgasm. Yet generations of men had no difficulty achieving orgasm from intercourse. Female orgasm with a lover is a modern justification for sex that reassures men of women’s continuing willingness to offer intercourse. Men…

Women make conscious effort to respond sexually

Men are naturally more proactive as lovers than women are. Men stimulate a partner because they are aroused by touching, kissing and penetrating a lover’s body. Their sex drive focuses them on penetration and the act of thrusting until ejaculation. Women do not have the same benefit. Women have to make conscious effort to offer…