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Intellectual aspects of sexuality

Sexuality is about our motivation to use our imagination to explore sexual fantasies; enjoying the responsiveness of our own body through masturbation alone; and about learning how we can achieve arousal and orgasm alone and with a lover.

Women fake orgasm to reassure men’s sexual ego

Kinsey’s research revealed that some women orgasm when masturbating alone. Previously no one even dreamed that women were even capable of orgasm. Yet generations of men had no difficulty achieving orgasm from intercourse. Female orgasm with a lover is a modern justification for sex that reassures men of women’s continuing willingness to offer intercourse. Men…

Everyone achieves orgasm in similar ways

Sex education must be able to explain and justify how orgasm is achieved by someone regardless of gender and orientation. Equally there needs to be a reconciliation between how someone achieves orgasm alone and how they achieve the same thing with a lover. Orgasm is a unique experience that involves both physical stimulation and mental…

Misunderstandings over how orgasm is achieved

Our portrayal of sex evidently suits those who are looking for emotional reassurance that they can easily please a lover. Men enjoy hearing about the assumed sexual responsiveness of millions of silent women. Women enjoy hearing about orgasm claims that make them more attractive to men. Anyone who has just had an orgasm does not…

Women orgasm only in specific circumstances

Male masturbation acts as a safety valve for men’s sex drive. But a woman has no conscious awareness of needing sexual release. A woman does not have the benefit of the external triggers that cause male arousal before men even start on stimulation. A woman has to generate sufficient arousal for orgasm out of nothing.…

Women make conscious effort to respond sexually

Men are naturally more proactive as lovers than women are. Men stimulate a partner because they are aroused by touching, kissing and penetrating a lover’s body. Their sex drive focuses them on penetration and the act of thrusting until ejaculation. Women do not have the same benefit. Women have to make conscious effort to offer…

Women’s fantasies are sexually explicit scenarios

When men are with a lover they don’t need to use fantasy because they are aroused by the presence of a lover’s body and by the opportunity for sexual activity with a lover. Men have a much stronger connection between their own arousal and physical with someone they find attractive. So men assume that the…

We (not a sex toy or lover) cause our own orgasm

Men are aroused before they arrive at sexual opportunities. Young men especially, need minimal stimulation to orgasm. So it is assumed that women are similarly aroused and that they only need physical stimulation. But women are not aroused by the prospect of sex or by a lover’s nudity (as men are) so they are nowhere…