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Intellectual aspects of sexuality

Sexuality is about our motivation to use our imagination to explore sexual fantasies; enjoying the responsiveness of our own body through masturbation alone; and about learning how we can achieve arousal and orgasm alone and with a lover.

Shere Hite published in 1976

Shere Hite’s work was a thesis produced for her doctorate in sexuality. Her research had much lower funding than Kinsey’s and so was more limited in scope. Hite circulated a lengthy questionnaire through women’s magazines and to passers-by on the street in the US in the early 1970s. Shere Hite’s sample was made up of…

Understanding a man’s need for erotic turn-ons

Men attribute sexual phenomenon to female anatomy as part of their arousal process. They need to believe that the women they are attracted to are different to their female relatives. But they can be embarrassed by these images of sexual women from pornography, recognising on some level that real women are offended by such a…

Arousal is psychological and arises in the mind

Men’s sex drive motivates them to obtain sexual release through intercourse. Women don’t have an erect sex organ that they can use to penetrate a partner. So we assume that women obtain their sexual release through being penetrated. A sex drive is always to penetrate. The motivation to penetrate comes from the mind of a…

Educated men masturbate more than other men

Masturbation is least common among less educated males (89%). More men who are high school educated (95%) and who are college educated (96%) are involved in masturbation for at least some period of their lives. Masturbation frequencies after marriage are highest (69%) among men who are college educated. Only 42% of men who are high…

An arousal trigger is either an object or a concept

Each generation of men thinks that women of their generation are more sexual than any previous generation of women. This is because young men are aroused by young women’s bodies. But our responsiveness does not depend on how we look. Responsiveness depends on what happens in the mind. Arousal occurs when the mind responds positively…

How men masturbate themselves to orgasm

Few boys masturbate before the onset of adolescence. Only 10% of boys are masturbating by the age of nine and only 13% by ten years of age. Male masturbation frequencies vary significantly indicating not only a range in responsiveness but also the different conscious choices men make over how they enjoy their arousal cycle from…

Similarities between male and female responses

Orgasm is a basic physiological response of the human body. Just as the same mechanism causes men and women to sneeze, so we must also orgasm the same way. Regardless of gender and orientation, both the anatomy and the trigger are the same. We stimulate the phallus and use a mental focus on explicit eroticism.…