Learn About Sexuality

Intellectual aspects of sexuality

Sexuality is about our motivation to use our imagination to explore sexual fantasies; enjoying the responsiveness of our own body through masturbation alone; and about learning how we can achieve arousal and orgasm alone and with a lover.

The nature of the fantasies women use for arousal

Men typically achieve orgasm through masturbation much more quickly than a woman does. This is because men are aroused at the start of any sexual activity. They have a basic biological arousal that makes it easy for a younger man to be aroused almost spontaneously. Men are also aroused by many triggers in the everyday…

Orgasm is a very specific one-off sexual release

For a fifth of men (22%) orgasm is primarily a genital reaction while nearly half of men (45%) have some build-up (body tension). The remaining four variations are similar to the first two but can include additional trembling, fainting, frenzied movements, convulsions, collapse, laughter and talking. Muscular tensions in the pelvic region increase, culminating in…

Women orgasm only in specific circumstances

Men’s sexuality is straightforward in the sense that they get turned-on, they stimulate their penis and mostly they orgasm. Men can masturbate regardless of whether they stand, sit or lie down. They orgasm from oral sex, intercourse etc. Women’s sexuality is not nearly as flexible as far as orgasm is concerned. The assumption that women…

How we know that female orgasm is uncommon

The research clearly indicates that women orgasm most easily through masturbation alone. But how can we deduce that this experience is relatively uncommon and hence that few women orgasm by any means? Let’s take a look at some of Kinsey’s statistics and think about what they might tell us. Kinsey and his team held private…

Everyone achieves orgasm in similar ways

Sex education must be able to explain and justify how orgasm is achieved by someone regardless of gender and orientation. Equally there needs to be a reconciliation between how someone achieves orgasm alone and how they achieve the same thing with a lover. Orgasm is a unique experience that involves both physical stimulation and mental…

The kind of stimulation that leads to orgasm

Regardless of gender, sexual activity that is aimed at achieving orgasm involves continuous rhythmic movements of the whole body focused on the pelvis. A woman achieves orgasm by kneading the internal clitoral organ rhythmically by pushing her fingers down from the bud towards the perineum. When we are aiming for orgasm we may tense our…

We (not a sex toy or lover) cause our own orgasm

We are aroused by something or someone else. But that does not mean that that person (or thing) is responsible for causing our arousal. It is our own mind’s reaction to that person or thing that causes us to become aroused. Men are aroused before they arrive at sexual opportunities. So they don’t generally need…