Learn About Sexuality

Intellectual aspects of sexuality

Sexuality is about our motivation to use our imagination to explore sexual fantasies; enjoying the responsiveness of our own body through masturbation alone; and about learning how we can achieve arousal and orgasm alone and with a lover.

How men masturbate themselves to orgasm

Men orgasm through intercourse on average within 2 minutes of penetration. Although men prefer sex (especially as they age and their hormone levels fall) over masturbating alone, they orgasm more quickly (on average within one to two minutes) through the more specific physical stimulation that masturbation provides. For reproductive reasons everything about intercourse is preferable…

Men sexualise women to assist with their arousal

Men’s sexual discussions tend to revolve around turn-ons because they find such conversations arousing. So men build up a fantasy world around women’s sexuality. When women say nothing, men assume that women are agreeing with them. But women rarely comment on sex. Neither are they typically interested in defining their own sexuality. So having no…

Orgasm is achieved by using consistent techniques

Sexuality is about appreciating what causes us to become aroused and learning how we can achieve orgasm both alone and with a lover. Men and women differ not only in terms of frequency of orgasm but also levels of sex drive and ease of arousal. There are many triggers for male arousal in the course…

How we masturbate ourselves to orgasm

Sexuality is about enjoying the responsiveness of our own body through masturbation. Our ability to respond to erotic scenarios (both real and imagined) causes us to investigate our own body’s responses. Adults masturbate over the longer term because they can generate turn-ons that reliably lead to orgasm. The incidence and frequency of masturbation is related…

Some people enjoy abstract eroticism & fantasy

Sexuality is about our motivation to explore our fantasies both during masturbation alone and during sex play with a lover. Our ability to reach orgasm ultimately depends on what happens in the brain. Yet we rarely acknowledge the psychological aspects of sex. Other primates have higher rates of responsiveness than humans. Social restrictions limit the…

Alfred Kinsey’s findings (1948 and 1953)

Kinsey was a botanist and had spent years classifying gall wasps according to their anatomical differences before he was asked to do research into human sexuality. His approach was naturally based on cataloguing physical characteristics for a population and then producing tables to deduce correlations between sexual activities and personal characteristics. For example, he classified…

Differences between men and women’s responses

The main differences between male and female sexuality relate to levels of sex drive, ease of arousal and the importance of orgasm. The penis and clitoris are the only erectile organs of the body. When a person experiences arousal (by the mind responding positively to eroticism) there is an increase in the rate of blood…