Learn About Sexuality

Intellectual aspects of sexuality

Sexuality is about our motivation to use our imagination to explore sexual fantasies; enjoying the responsiveness of our own body through masturbation alone; and about learning how we can achieve arousal and orgasm alone and with a lover.

Some people enjoy abstract eroticism & fantasy

Sexuality is about our motivation to explore our fantasies both during masturbation alone and during sex play with a lover. Our ability to reach orgasm ultimately depends on what happens in the brain. Yet we rarely acknowledge the psychological aspects of sex. Other primates have higher rates of responsiveness than humans. Social restrictions limit the…

Alfred Kinsey’s findings (1948 and 1953)

Kinsey was a botanist and had spent years classifying gall wasps according to their anatomical differences before he was asked to do research into human sexuality. His approach was naturally based on cataloguing physical characteristics for a population and then producing tables to deduce correlations between sexual activities and personal characteristics. For example, he classified…

Differences between men and women’s responses

The main differences between male and female sexuality relate to levels of sex drive, ease of arousal and the importance of orgasm. The penis and clitoris are the only erectile organs of the body. When a person experiences arousal (by the mind responding positively to eroticism) there is an increase in the rate of blood…

Women might think they orgasm but they don’t

Orgasm is the obvious motivation for engaging in sexual activity, at least for men. Although men have varying levels of sex drive (which affect the frequency with which they want sex) once a man engages in specific genital stimulation he most usually does achieve orgasm. So it doesn’t occur to men that women, who are…

Women’s fantasies are sexually explicit scenarios

Women who masturbate to orgasm rarely talk about the pleasure they enjoy for a number of reasons. Most other women react with evident disgust if masturbation is ever mentioned. If a woman tells a male partner, he may interpret it as a turn-on and want to have intercourse. Women are also embarrassed to admit the…

The significance of orgasm to men and women

For older men and especially for women, arousal is not spontaneous. A woman cannot guarantee that orgasm is possible when she considers masturbation alone. She has to think about the possibility and gauge whether her state of mind is such that orgasm might be possible. Even after she has started stimulating herself or thinking about…

Women only orgasm when alone not with a lover

Because of the male experience, it is incorrectly assumed that women should orgasm more easily with a lover than when alone. Masturbation provides women with the opportunity to enjoy orgasm without exposing themselves to the life-threatening risks of pregnancy and childbirth. The fact that women orgasm most easily by masturbating alone is counterintuitive because it…