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Intellectual aspects of sexuality

Sexuality is about our motivation to use our imagination to explore sexual fantasies; enjoying the responsiveness of our own body through masturbation alone; and about learning how we can achieve arousal and orgasm alone and with a lover.

Why couples don’t discuss female arousal

Male orgasm is explicit and defines the end of heterosexual activity. It is accepted that a man thrusts until he ejaculates. Couples never discuss the explicit details of how and when female orgasm occurs. This is because of the confusion and ignorance in society about how orgasm is achieved. Most people are insecure about pleasing…

Most women are unaware of the role of the clitoris

The key assumption (that is erroneous) is the belief that women orgasm with a lover by any means. When research established that women are capable of orgasm, it was immediately assumed that women should naturally orgasm during sociable activity as a result of the stimulation men provide during intercourse. It was not appreciated that women…

Only men are aroused by the prospect of sex

Humans (and other mammals) have the ability to remember past events and to form associations with those past events. If the event was particularly significant then we are likely to feel similar emotions the next time we are faced with the same situation. For example, when we enjoy a particular meal. The next time we…

Arousal is a state that proceeds directly to orgasm

Women conclude that orgasm (like masturbation) is boring and over-rated. This is because they assume it occurs automatically during intercourse or when they stimulate themselves. But this is not orgasm. Even men do not orgasm through physical stimulation alone. Any adult needs some form of mental stimulation that is of an explicitly erotic nature to…

How we know that female masturbation is rare

Women represent a particular educational challenge because they are not nearly as curious as men are about sexual phenomena. Women often fail to realise that they are ignorant of the specifics of sexual response. They are unaware of the sexual content out there fictional or otherwise. Women rarely participate in any kind of informed sexual…

The misconceptions that arise from pornography

Pornography provides boys with completely unrealistic images of women’s sexuality. This issue needs to be addressed by sex educators if boys are to have healthy relationships and find emotional happiness. If real life was like a porn movie, then porn would not be needed. In real life, men orgasm easily (on average within 2 minutes…

Arousal relies on a positive response to eroticism

We can experience a peak of sensation for various reasons. Take, for example, ticklishness. Someone could tickle our feet, our knees or under our armpit. We may reach a point where we don’t want further stimulation. We may even experience a peak of sensation or simply exhaustion from being over-stimulated. But such a sensation is…