Learn About Sexuality

Emotional aspects of sexuality

Sexuality is about engaging in intercourse (the mating act); non-sexual intimacy & how we feel loved in our relationships; and about our willingness to consent to sexual activity with others.

Intercourse is an act of mating & impregnation

Sexuality is about the act of mating. Unlike other animals, humans do not have sex simply for the purpose of achieving pregnancy (reproduction). We also have sex for the enjoyment of the pleasures of sexual intimacy (recreation) and to form the bonds that keep couples committed to each other for the decades needed to support…

Understanding the value of non-sexual intimacy

Sexuality is about our emotions and how we feel loved in our relationships with others. Even in committed sexual relationships, sex is rarely about producing children. At its best, sex can create a sense of emotional connection between two people. Although sex is often described in terms of the erotic aspects, many people also look…

Bill Masters & Virginia Johnson’s research (1966)

Alfred Kinsey had attempted to be comprehensive in the scope of his research and in doing so had offended people by revealing taboo aspects of sexuality such as: homosexuality, promiscuity and female masturbation. Masters and Johnson decided to ignore the wider picture. Unlike Alfred Kinsey, William Masters and Virginia Johnson did not take a statistical…

Sex without consent is rape regardless of intent

Men’s responsiveness causes them to be fascinated by genitals. Female responsiveness does not work in the same way. Women (much like children of both sexes) are indifferent to genitals. They may have a mild curiosity about them but many consider genitals to be ugly and smelly parts of the body. If a woman does not…

Intercourse involves reproductive risk for women

Once a man chooses a mate, he feels emotionally fulfilled because she has accepted him as a lover. He considers his love for her to be special because it is a sexual love. In the days before we had reliable contraception, a man never considered how it might be different for a woman given the…

Women drive the need for dating and romance

Women read romantic stories that focus on the courtship process that is often necessary for a woman to feel emotionally receptive to intercourse. Romantic stories usually end before the sex begins. The woman’s conquest is marriage. Once she has a man’s support then she can plan a family. Porn, of course, shows women how men…

Sexual insults, bullying & habitual harassment

Children should understand the importance of standing up for themselves. They should be given guidelines for dealing with negative behaviours, such as online and face-to-face name calling. They should understand how actions such as making sexual comments and sharing sexual pictures, either in person or online, may affect people’s feelings and reputation. Behaviours that can…