Learn About Sexuality

Emotional aspects of sexuality

Sexuality is about engaging in intercourse (the mating act); non-sexual intimacy & how we feel loved in our relationships; and about our willingness to consent to sexual activity with others.

The erotic pleasure a man enjoys from sex

Sexual activity, nudity and genital stimulation have a special significance. Because no matter how promiscuous we are, we don’t share this degree of intimacy with most people we meet. We interact with each other on a non-sexual level most of the time. Physical intimacy has a much greater emotional significance for men because their arousal…

Sexual scenarios tend to be biased in men’s favour

Men have power in sexual relationships because they dictate what happens in sexual activity. Heterosexual relationships revolve around providing the stimulation and turn-ons that men need for orgasm. This is because men’s reproductive biology focuses on their performance during intercourse. Women’s sexuality focuses on what happens after intercourse including pregnancy, childbirth, breast-feeding and raising children…

Orgasm has no effect on women’s interest in sex

When talking about sex, adults often fail to take into account the very different experiences we have. We may also have very different responses to the same experience because of our different personalities. Being married for 30 years is very different to being single. Living with a man who wants sex every day is different…

Women do not need to be like men to be valid

Most people base their beliefs about how women are assumed to enjoy sexual pleasure (usually equated with orgasm) on what they see in pornography or read in erotic literature without accounting for the fact that these are fictional sources intended to cause arousal. Even sex educators promote sex as if it is always easily pleasurable…

Intercourse is a territorial act of male dominance

Farmers know that cows will mount other cows. But the cows that are mounted are those in estrus. The ones that do the mounting are not in estrus. Estrus in animals causes the female to be more docile and to be more amenable to being mounted. We attribute negative associations to passivity and submissiveness. The…

Few women are sexually proactive with a lover

When we look at the mating behaviours of other animals, we see the female role varying between submitting to an assault by the male to indifferent acceptance. The male mammal thrusts but the female is not expected to provide any stimulation or response. A woman has sex with a person because she loves them or…

Men cannot accept that women are unresponsive

We can talk about responsiveness as a general concept. But responsiveness is evidenced in completely different ways in men and women. Male responsiveness is biological. Men orgasm easily especially when young. Men appreciate the physical: their own body, the body of a lover and physical interaction through sexual activity with a lover. Men notice that…