Learn About Sexuality

Emotional aspects of sexuality

Sexuality is about engaging in intercourse (the mating act); non-sexual intimacy & how we feel loved in our relationships; and about our willingness to consent to sexual activity with others.

The receiver of intercourse need not be aroused

In order to make healthy decisions, teenagers need a minimum level of self-esteem and self-confidence. This allows us to formulate our own view without being influenced by undue pressure from others. Young people need to be given guidelines for how to maintain a healthy relationship. Adolescents should understand what makes a positive relationship and what…

Intercourse is totally defined by male responses

Before we even consider engaging in sexual activity that focuses on achieving orgasm, we must be in a state of arousal that we know (from experience) means that we have a reasonable (worth making the effort) chance of reaching orgasm. For a man this state is usually defined by whether he can achieve a strong…

The erotic pleasure a man enjoys from sex

Sexual activity, nudity and genital stimulation have a special significance. Because no matter how promiscuous we are, we don’t share this degree of intimacy with most people we meet. We interact with each other on a non-sexual level most of the time. Physical intimacy has a much greater emotional significance for men because their arousal…

Sexual scenarios tend to be biased in men’s favour

Men have power in sexual relationships because they dictate what happens in sexual activity. Heterosexual relationships revolve around providing the stimulation and turn-ons that men need for orgasm. This is because men’s reproductive biology focuses on their performance during intercourse. Women’s sexuality focuses on what happens after intercourse including pregnancy, childbirth, breast-feeding and raising children…

Orgasm has no effect on women’s interest in sex

When talking about sex, adults often fail to take into account the very different experiences we have. We may also have very different responses to the same experience because of our different personalities. Being married for 30 years is very different to being single. Living with a man who wants sex every day is different…

Women do not need to be like men to be valid

Most people base their beliefs about how women are assumed to enjoy sexual pleasure (usually equated with orgasm) on what they see in pornography or read in erotic literature without accounting for the fact that these are fictional sources intended to cause arousal. Even sex educators promote sex as if it is always easily pleasurable…

Intercourse is a territorial act of male dominance

Farmers know that cows will mount other cows. But the cows that are mounted are those in estrus. The ones that do the mounting are not in estrus. Estrus in animals causes the female to be more docile and to be more amenable to being mounted. We attribute negative associations to passivity and submissiveness. The…