Learn About Sexuality

Emotional aspects of sexuality

Sexuality is about engaging in intercourse (the mating act); non-sexual intimacy & how we feel loved in our relationships; and about our willingness to consent to sexual activity with others.

The receiver of intercourse need not be aroused

The vast majority of heterosexual activity is based on intercourse that ends with male ejaculation. There are two distinct roles in penetrative sex: the penetrator is a man who penetrates (with an erect penis). Then there’s the person being penetrated (the receiver). The receiver can be either male or female. Homosexual men engage in anal…

Women drive the need for dating and romance

Without sex, there is little intimacy between adults. Women are dependent on men to provide this sense of passion and connection with another adult. Platonic love is caring and affectionate. Sexual love (or reciprocating sexual love) can be more intensely emotional (at least in the beginning). Women experience this through the need to respond to…

The story behind the G-spot myth (1982)

In the 1980s, Beverly Whipple and John Perry were teaching women Kegel exercises for urinary stress incontinence. They identified a patch of erectile tissue that can be felt through the front wall of the vagina, directly behind the pubic bone. They named this the G-spot after Dr Ernst Gräfenberg, who wrote about the area in…

Penetration is what makes sex erotic and taboo

Sex education should present the different moral and social issues that are raised by different behaviours in as unbiased a way as possible. Sex education should avoid judgemental opinions such as ‘wrong’ or ‘abnormal’. Sex education is about putting behaviours in context. Teenagers should understand that when their sexual choices involve interacting with a lover,…

Men’s sexual satisfaction relies on having a lover

For someone to have a sex drive there must be a trigger that generates an urge to engage in intercourse. Men experience regular erections that cause sexual tension or frustration. They may be able to relieve that tension to a degree through masturbation. But ultimately they need to engage in intercourse to obtain sexual release…

The significance of nudity & being touched

Private parts refer to parts of the body that we may want (or be required) to cover up. Private parts include the genitals and the female breasts. Little girls are discouraged from showing their panties. Boys learn to keep their penis hidden. It may be considered ‘indecent’ to show too much bare flesh. Parents often…

Intercourse is totally defined by male responses

Men have much more confidence over sexual matters than women because sex revolves around male responses. A man’s arousal motivates him to initiate sexual activity. His desire for penetration ensures that he wants to obtain sexual opportunities with a partner. His erection makes penetrative sex possible. His orgasm ends his interest in engaging in further…