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Social aspects of sexuality

Sexuality is about a committed relationship (including social, emotional & sexual activity); observing, talking or interacting with others in return for payment or other non-relationship rewards; and about enjoying sexual pleasure with a lover

Women are often disappointed with casual sex

We are all living longer due to improved health and life-styles. So ‘til death do us part’ is longer than it used to be centuries ago. Some couples like the idea that they are not bound to another person for decades. But for most couples this is not an option and adultery is a guilty…

Explaining men & women’s sexual behaviours

Men and women’s sexuality are fundamentally different. Men are responsive. They enjoy erotic fantasies and genital activity. Women are emotional. They enjoy romance and companionable activities. A man is sexual because he is responsive. A woman is sexy because she is attractive to men. The reason we have two sexes is for diversity. If men…

Our definition of sexual pleasure

The most basic definition of sexual pleasure is the enjoyment of arousal and orgasm. Men and women enjoy these phenomena under different circumstances. Given men’s sex drive to engage in penetrative sex, men focus on sexual activity with a lover. Sexual pleasure tends to be defined in male terms as the pleasure obtained from sexual…

The role of relationship therapists & counsellors

Adults are embarrassed about sex because of their emotional insecurities. Our emotional needs include a need to impress, a need to belong and a need to be valued. Some people lack self-esteem, which stems from anxiety. Women tend to be much less confident than men, which is quite natural. We avoid discussing relationship issues for…

Women attract men by sexualising themselves

We wear clothes for warmth, for decency, for protection and also for display. The need to differentiate ourselves depends on our personality. Some women use dress as a means of providing a sexual come-on (a form of invitation). Women tend to display their bodies to the full extent allowed by the definition of decency in…

Only some men are motivated to offer foreplay

Two adults may touch each other in neutral body zones (such as on the shoulder or arm) without any implication of intimacy. They can also kiss on the cheek as a show of friendship. When a couple engages in mouth-to-mouth kissing it is generally taken to be a precursor to sexual activity or to occur…

Anorgasmia, preorgasmia and vaginismus

The idea that a heterosexual couple engages in any sexual activity that does not culminate in intercourse is unthinkable for most people. Men focus on intercourse because of their sex drive. Nature that ensures that most men want intercourse above all other activity because it leads to reproduction. The vast majority of female sexual dysfunctions…