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Why women cannot orgasm through intercourse

Without the protection of reliable contraception, few women would volunteer for regular unprotected intercourse. At a basic biological level for women intercourse involves pregnancy not female orgasm.

Intercourse is the basic mating act. So naturally it has been assumed that female orgasm should occur as a result of intercourse. Most women are not motivated to stimulate themselves at any other time.

(1) Intercourse is determined by male responses
A woman cannot orgasm through activity that is defined by male responses. Intercourse can only start when a man has an erection and ends when a man ejaculates (coincident with male orgasm). Orgasm comes at the end of sexual activity that is focused on achieving it. If women were just as responsive as men, then logically for about half the time sexual activity would end with a woman’s orgasm. So women’s lack of responsiveness is intentional because, for reproductive reasons, a woman has to be willing to allow intercourse to continue until a man ejaculates.

(2) Sexual responsiveness is a male characteristic
There is no justification for female orgasm. A woman’s reproductive capacity depends on the automatic process of ovulation. Male orgasm is not directly linked to reproduction either but ejaculation is required for reproduction. Some small boys may orgasm without ejaculating but after adolescence, orgasm always triggers ejaculation. Indeed, there is no other physiological event (except orgasm) that could account for ejaculation.

(3) Women are meant to be unresponsive with a lover
Women’s reproductive role is to co-operate with intercourse until a man ejaculates. If women could orgasm through their own efforts or if they were motivated to stimulate a lover (by hand or by mouth), intercourse would be less likely and reproduction therefore less successful.

(4) The clitoris is the female erectile (sex) organ
Intercourse does not allow the woman to adopt a suitable position for orgasm. Nor does it allow her to obtain the correct stimulation of the clitoral organ, by massaging of the blood-flow from in front while tensing her pelvic muscles from behind in a thrusting rhythm.

(5) Women are not aroused by sexual activity
Women are clearly not aroused either by a lover’s body or by the prospect of sexual activity. They do not seek out pornography as men do. So there is no mechanism that causes a woman to be aroused with a lover. There is nothing erotic about being impregnated.

(6) Women are much less responsive than men are
Kinsey found that 30% of the women in his sample openly acknowledged that they had no (or very little) response to eroticism. This is why there is so much confusion and erroneous information about female orgasm.

(7) Women orgasm much less frequently than men do
Women orgasm on average once every two weeks regardless of age. Men orgasm much more frequently than women. It is not possible for a woman to orgasm every time a man does.

(8) Women need more time to orgasm than men do
Most men (three-quarters of them) orgasm on average within two minutes of initiating intercourse, which is not long enough for a woman to achieve orgasm. Women need 4 minutes on average to masturbate to orgasm alone and 10 to 20 minutes or longer to orgasm with a lover.

(9) Nature has no reason to provide female orgasm during sex
A woman becomes pregnant regardless of orgasm so there is no reason why a woman should be stimulated to orgasm through intercourse. Nature does not need to double up by giving men and women a drive to achieve the same thing. Men’s greater strength and women’s reproductive vulnerability mean that women have every incentive to co-operate, both sexually and socially, with men.

(10) Women who say they orgasm are no more enthusiastic about sex
Research indicates that couples have intercourse with frequencies that are solely related to the man’s sex drive. So even if a woman believes that orgasm is possible through intercourse, she does not engage in intercourse any more than a woman who knows it’s impossible. Neither do these orgasms motivate women to initiate intercourse more than other women.

The vagina has no anatomical structure that can cause orgasm. (Vincenzo & Giulia Puppo 2014)

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