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Why women cannot orgasm through intercourse

Orgasm is vital for men, so it is assumed to be equally vital for women.

(1) A woman is impregnated regardless of orgasm
Male orgasm triggers ejaculation, which is vital for reproduction. A woman cannot ejaculate because she lacks the male glands. Since ovulation occurs automatically, there is no reason for a woman to orgasm at any time.

(2) Women need emotional factors to be amenable to intercourse
Men are aroused by intercourse regardless of emotional factors. This is because orgasm occurs as a result of psychological arousal and physical stimulation. An erotic stimulus causes arousal regardless of emotional circumstances. Women are not aroused by opportunities for intercourse because there is nothing erotic about being impregnated. The emotional environment of rape is certainly very different to consensual intercourse. But the physical stimulation of rape is not so different. It is not possible for an act that causes women so much distress to also cause sexual arousal.

(3) Women are meant to be unresponsive with a lover
Women’s reproductive role is to co-operate with intercourse until a man ejaculates. If women could orgasm through their own efforts or if they were motivated to stimulate a lover (by hand or by mouth), intercourse would be less likely and reproduction therefore less successful. Women who are responsive, assume that there must be something wrong with them.

(4) Intercourse is totally defined by male responses
Whatever mechanism people dream up to try to explain how women might be able to orgasm from intercourse, no one can orgasm within time constraints determined by another person’s orgasm. Intercourse relies on a man having an erection. The stimulation of intercourse ends with a man’s ejaculation. Orgasm is a response that occurs spontaneously. No one can orgasm from stimulation that is provided for a random length of time.

(5) Orgasm ends sexual activity that is focused on achieving it
Any activity that culminates in orgasm, naturally ends once a person has achieved orgasm. This explains why men lose interest in continuing sexual activity once they have had an orgasm. If women were as responsive as men, then logically for about half the time sexual activity would end with a woman’s orgasm. But for reproductive reasons, a woman has to be willing to allow intercourse to continue until a man ejaculates.

(6) Women orgasm much less frequently than men do
Orgasm is not like pressing a button. Each person experiences orgasm with a specific frequency. Women orgasm on average once every two weeks regardless of age. Men orgasm much more frequently than women. It is not possible for a woman to orgasm every time a man does.

(7) Women need more time to orgasm than men do
Men masturbate to orgasm within 1 or less. Intercourse may be more satisfying but the stimulation is more indirect. So it takes them longer. Women need 4 minutes on average to orgasm alone and 10 to 20 minutes or longer to orgasm with a lover. Most men (three-quarters of them) orgasm on average within two minutes of initiating intercourse, which is not long enough for a woman to achieve orgasm. So a woman is assumed to be able to engineer her orgasm to occur within this 2 minute window.

(8) Intercourse does not stimulate the clitoris
Intercourse stimulates the wrong anatomy for a woman to achieve orgasm. Intercourse does not allow the woman to adopt a suitable position for orgasm. Nor does it allow her to obtain the correct stimulation of the clitoral organ, by massaging of the blood-flow from in front while tensing her pelvic muscles from behind in a thrusting rhythm. Women are not mentally aroused with a lover so the clitoral organ is not tumescent.

(9) A woman cannot obtain the correct stimulation with a lover
The position a woman assumes when a man (or object) stimulates the vagina is incompatible with how female orgasm is achieved. During intercourse a woman cooperates with male thrusting, by spreading her legs and gyrating her hips to assist with stimulation of the penis. She typically lies on her back and her eyes are open, which is incompatible with stimulating the clitoral organ.

(10) Orgasm cannot be defined to suit the individual
The nature of sexual reproduction means that we are all different and unique. But we are all made from a common gene pool. Orgasm is a basic physiological response of the human body so it is not possible for one individual to have a unique response. If a response is possible, then it is possible for millions of people and not just one individual. It is difficult to disprove one woman’s claims but we can use behaviours to discount them.

The vagina has no anatomical structure that can cause orgasm. (Vincenzo & Giulia Puppo 2014)

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