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How orgasm is achieved

Sexuality is about learning how we can achieve arousal and orgasm alone and with a lover.

Arousal is psychological and arises in the mind

Men’s sex drive motivates them to obtain sexual release through intercourse. Women don’t have an erect sex organ that they can use to penetrate a partner. So we assume that women obtain their sexual release through being penetrated. A sex drive is always to penetrate. The motivation to penetrate comes from the mind of a…

Similarities between male and female responses

Orgasm is a basic physiological response of the human body. Just as the same mechanism causes men and women to sneeze, so we must also orgasm the same way. Regardless of gender and orientation, both the anatomy and the trigger are the same. We stimulate the phallus and use a mental focus on explicit eroticism.…

The kind of stimulation that leads to orgasm

An adult experiences orgasm (once aroused) by stimulating the phallus or erectile sex organ. The penis and the clitoris are anatomically equivalent. The sex organs (penis and clitoris) have two corpora cavernosa that fill with blood when the mind is engaged with thoughts of an explicitly erotic nature. The kind of stimulation, that might lead…

Orgasm is a response to stimuli of an erotic nature

We can experience a peak of sensation for various reasons. For example, someone could tickle our feet, our knees or under our armpit. We may reach a point where we have had enough and we don’t want further stimulation. Such a sensation is not orgasm. Firstly, the sex organ is not involved but neither is…

Orgasm is a very specific one-off sexual release

A sex organ goes through a cycle of arousal. Initially it is unaroused. This means that the penis is flaccid and a woman is unaware of any sensitivity in her pelvic region. Both sexes experience tumescence (blood flowing into the genitals) when aroused. As the mind responds to eroticism, blood flows to the sex organ…

Misunderstandings over how orgasm is achieved

Our portrayal of sex evidently suits those who are looking for emotional reassurance that they can easily please a lover. Women enjoy hearing about orgasm claims that make them more attractive to men. The only reason men care about female orgasm is because they attribute a woman’s orgasm to their own sexual prowess during intercourse.…

Women’s fantasies are sexually explicit scenarios

When men are with a lover they don’t need to use fantasy. Men are easily aroused by the presence of a lover’s body and by the opportunity for penetrative sex. Men have a much stronger connection between their own arousal and physical activity with someone they find attractive. So men assume that the ‘real thing’…