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How orgasm is achieved

Sexuality is about learning how we can achieve arousal and orgasm alone and with a lover.

Arousal is psychological and arises in the mind

There are three key aspects to responsiveness. These are biological, emotional and intellectual. The biological element is the most vital because it is the basic physiological response that enables a person to orgasm. The vast majority of women do not have the capability to experience orgasm. This is very clear from women’s dislike of eroticism,…

Similarities between male and female responses

There are some very noticeable similarities between the ways in which men and women approach orgasm techniques. But men are much more flexible in terms of how and when they can orgasm: either alone through masturbation or with a lover through oral sex or intercourse. Women are only able to achieve orgasm through masturbation alone.…

Orgasm is achieved by using consistent techniques

Sexuality is about appreciating what causes us to become aroused and learning how we can achieve orgasm both alone and with a lover. Men and women differ not only in terms of frequency of orgasm but also levels of sex drive and ease of arousal. There are many triggers for male arousal in the course…

Differences between men and women’s responses

The main differences between male and female sexuality relate to levels of sex drive, ease of arousal and the importance of orgasm. The penis and clitoris are the only erectile organs of the body. When a person experiences arousal (by the mind responding positively to eroticism) there is an increase in the rate of blood…

The significance of orgasm to men and women

For older men and especially for women, arousal is not spontaneous. A woman cannot guarantee that orgasm is possible when she considers masturbation alone. She has to think about the possibility and gauge whether her state of mind is such that orgasm might be possible. Even after she has started stimulating herself or thinking about…

Orgasm is a very specific one-off sexual release

For a fifth of men (22%) orgasm is primarily a genital reaction while nearly half of men (45%) have some build-up (body tension). The remaining four variations are similar to the first two but can include additional trembling, fainting, frenzied movements, convulsions, collapse, laughter and talking. Muscular tensions in the pelvic region increase, culminating in…

The kind of stimulation that leads to orgasm

Regardless of gender, sexual activity that is aimed at achieving orgasm involves continuous rhythmic movements of the whole body focused on the pelvis. A woman achieves orgasm by kneading the internal clitoral organ rhythmically by pushing her fingers down from the bud towards the perineum. When we are aiming for orgasm we may tense our…