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How women masturbate themselves to orgasm

Female orgasm is evidently incredibly rare. If it were not, we would not have all the confusion over how it is achieved. So we are never going to have millions of women agreeing on how they orgasm. The best we can hope for is a scientific justification of women’s orgasm techniques. A woman masturbates by emulating the male thrusting role. Orgasm arises from stimulating the anatomy men and women have in common, the phallus.

A woman aligns herself mentally with the proactive role in intercourse. Most of the penis is external to the body but, for the clitoris, the reverse is true. What we commonly refer to as the clitoris is in fact only the glans. The clitoris is called a phallus because it is the equivalent organ to the penis. But, since only the glans protrudes externally, the clitoris cannot penetrate.

Responsive women use the fingers of both hands to massage the blood flow within the internal clitoral organ. The clitoris is stimulated in much the same way a man masturbates his penis. The stimulation of the glans is always through the hood of skin over the glans. As for a man, most of the stimulation of female masturbation is directed towards the corpora cavernosa within the body (or shaft of the clitoris). The only way that a woman can massage the accumulated blood flow (that results from psychological arousal) is to press down either side of the vaginal opening.

The initial catalyst for masturbation is the thought appearing in a woman’s mind that orgasm might be possible. There is a mandatory period of time upfront, when a woman has to decide whether she can generate enough arousal for orgasm. This is the most critical and often the longest phase. She cycles through possible fantasies to see if her mind is going to respond. Initially she may rely on material from erotic literature. Over time these scenarios are reused over and over by relying on memory. She only uses a handful of scenarios. She homes in on the aspects of sex that she knows from past experience are most likely to arouse her sufficiently for orgasm.

One of the first signs of female arousal is a very slight genital response to a woman’s mind responding positively to a sexual scenario. When she massages over her glans, a responsive woman feels a slight tingling. She is conscious of a sense of excitement as her genitals become tumescent and an increase in heart-rate or breathing. If a woman is not responding, then fantasies that would normally arouse her seem unappealing. She just abandons the idea. Even after she has assumed her position, she may conclude that she is not sufficiently aroused for orgasm. There may be a mild sense of disappointment but there is no sexual frustration. A woman does not have a sex drive so her arousal is accompanied by no sense of urgency. Female arousal is easily dissipated by real-world interruptions.

While a woman is waiting for the inspiration of the fantasy to take effect, she places her hands in position over her vulva. She lies on her front somewhere comfortable like a bed, with her fingers from one hand over her vulva. She massages over her clitoral glans while reading. During this time, she keeps her fingers in position over the top of the glans (protected by the surrounding skin) and moves her hips from side to side or in a circular motion while concentrating on her fantasy. A woman holds her breath as she concentrates, followed by involuntary sharp intakes of breath. If someone is sleeping nearby, she tries to avoid gasping and disturbing them.

A woman stimulates herself much less aggressively than the action men use to masturbate. A man jerks himself off in rapid, vigorous movements but a woman uses a slower rhythmic massaging motion. The first time she discovers orgasm, a woman may use her fingers to massage over her vulva through her panties. She quickly moves on though to use the more tactile stimulation of her fingers directly on the skin. At the start of a session, a woman focuses her stimulation over the clitoral glans. She uses the fingers of both hands to exert pressure through the skin. She presses the skin over (the hood of) and around the glans (the labia) down toward the perineum.

As her sexual tension increases, a woman recognises the signs that orgasm is close. She shifts the focus of her stimulation. She presses down more firmly into the spongy tissue surrounding the labia (immediately below the pubic bone) essentially kneading the internal clitoral organ. This second stage of stimulation also involves putting firm and regular pressure on the internal organ by clenching her buttocks. She uses a squeeze technique, which thrusts the pelvis forward. The clitoral organ is squeezed between her fingers in front (external) and her pelvic muscles behind (internal).

While masturbating, a woman’s focus is on the fantasy in her head. She provides stimulation at crucial moments of mental arousal. A woman equates her own tumescence with the imagined excitement a man feels as his sexual excitement culminates in an urge to ejaculate. His ejaculation equates to the pleasure she obtains from her own orgasm. She uses both hands to push down firmly and closes her eyes as she orgasms. Once her mind has tuned into a fantasy a woman can orgasm within a minute or two.

… a high percentage of all the females who masturbate use techniques which involve some sort of rhythmic stimulation of the clitoris, usually with a finger or several fingers or the whole hand. (Alfred Kinsey 1953)