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Orgasm is an instinctive response to erotic stimuli

Various nervous system responses have symptoms in common with orgasm. These include anger, fear and epilepsy. We can experience a peak of sensation for various reasons. For example, someone could tickle our feet. We may reach a point where we don’t want further stimulation. Such a sensation is not orgasm. Firstly, the sex organ is not involved but secondly there is no mental focus on eroticism. Orgasm is defined by the pleasure a person enjoys from the erotic stimuli that cause mental arousal. Female orgasm is often assumed to occur simply because stimulation ceases.

Most women conclude that orgasm (like masturbation) is over-rated. This is because women rarely appreciate that orgasm is a release of nervous energy and arises in the brain. The very specific stimulation of the sex organ only works once we are aroused. Other women believe they orgasm either alone or with a lover but without using any erotic stimuli. This is evidence that they do not appreciate the nature of orgasm. Any adult needs some form of mental stimulation of an explicitly erotic nature to achieve orgasm.

If men want women to have a positive attitude towards eroticism or to be willing to engage in more adventurous sex play, then so-called female orgasms that arise without women engaging on erotic concepts of any kind are not going to help very much. It is the mind’s positive response to sexual scenarios that causes someone to empathise with eroticism. Our ability to respond to eroticism is what motivates us to engage in sexual activity. The pleasure of orgasm is the mental arousal that causes the pelvic contractions.

Female orgasm is often defined in emotional terms. Yet if women are experiencing the same sexual response as men (orgasm) we would expect these female orgasms to have characteristics in common with the male experience. Male orgasm clearly depends on a mental focus on erotic turn-ons that cause arousal followed by stimulation of the sex organ (phallus).

Arousal is a psychological response that is triggered by the mind. Orgasm is a response to erotic stimuli of a psychological nature. These stimuli may be visual or imaginary but they are explicit images or erotic concepts related to the genitals and most typically penetrative sex. Orgasm can be achieved reliably because we discover the erotic stimuli that cause us to orgasm.

Orgasm is an instinctive response. That means that even when we have no prior knowledge or experience of orgasm, we are still able to discover it. It has to be that way because otherwise the human race (and other animals) would not exist. We haven’t always had books or even word of mouth to tell us about intercourse and masturbation. There is no such thing as an instinct to buy a vibrator and use it to stimulate yourself. This is a conscious behaviour motivated by the advertising slogans of the sex toy companies.

The mind responds to erotic stimuli by causing blood to flow to the genitals in preparation for sexual activity. This causes observable evidence of arousal in the form of tumescence. A man is naturally motivated to explore a woman’s body because he is aroused by it. This means that even in the absence of all knowledge of intercourse he would eventually discover it.

The motivation to engage in activity that culminates in orgasm arises in our own mind. Erotic stimuli (that cause the brain to increase blood flow to the genitals) motivate a responsive person (who senses this tumescence) to massage their phallus. The stimulation technique we use is instinctive. We could experiment with different masturbation techniques but there’s little point. We continue as we began because the technique works reliably. Specifically, we do not discover orgasm because we are given information. Once we have discovered orgasm, prior information may make more sense.

Imagine a boy and a girl who grow up on a dessert island without any knowledge of the outside world. At adolescence, the boy will have erections and may masturbate. If they have close contact the boy will become aroused (have an erection). Without any instruction, he will be instinctively motivated to engage in thrusting activity. He would discover the woman’s vagina without knowing of its existence. A woman does not have the same instinct. She may be motivated to demonstrate affection if she loves him.

Reproduction relies on women providing a man with an opportunity for intercourse rather than being focused on achieving their own orgasm. So sexual activity with a lover has a social rather than an erotic context for women. Compared with men’s acute arousal, women feel much more diffuse feelings of mild excitement. Nevertheless these sensations, whether they are strong or weak, draw our attention to the sex organ. It is only when a responsive woman is alone that she is able to enjoy her own responses.

A man is aroused when he wants to engage in penetrative sex, which is when he has an erection. So men assume that if a woman is willing to engage in intercourse she must be equally aroused. Women don’t have erections. Having an orifice to offer a lover has nothing to do with arousal. Anyone can provide a mouth, a vagina (women only) or an anus for a male partner to penetrate. These orifices are not sex organs. No matter what kind of stimulation or for how long it is applied, the receiver will not orgasm.

Most males … are definitely aroused upon seeing things that are associated with sex, and most females are not so aroused. (Alfred Kinsey 1948)