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Sexual pleasuring

Sexuality is about enjoying sexual pleasure with a lover.

A man wants a partner to make love to his penis

When a man masturbates, he uses firm and sustained stimulation of his penis from the outset. When a woman first masturbates a man, she may be surprised by just how firmly she can stimulate his penis by hand compared with her own masturbation. The clitoris responds very differently to the penis. Even for women who…

Sexual pleasuring a man may enjoy

For men sexual opportunities are precious. A man approaches sex with a sense of urgency and anxiety. His prime biological goal is to ejaculate within a woman’s vagina. A secondary goal (but a man’s prime conscious motivation) is to continue intercourse for as long as he can to enjoy the sensations of arousal from thrusting.…

How to make the most of sexual pleasuring

Sexuality is about enjoying sexual pleasure with a lover. We experience pleasure both psychologically and physically. Men enjoy the erotic and genital stimuli that lead to orgasm. Women need to make more of the sensual and emotional stimuli sex may provide. Any part of the body may be involved in sexual activity. There are three…

Sexual pleasure need not always focus on orgasm

A sex education should include a description of the main techniques that can be used to pleasure men and women. It should be made explicit whether such techniques are intended to assist with orgasm or whether they involve purely emotional and sensual sensations. When we suggest that a couple spends some ‘sexy’ time together, the…

How we know women do not orgasm with a lover

It’s fairly straightforward to demonstrate in numerous ways that intercourse is not an activity that women are ever likely to orgasm from. But what about other activities with a lover, especially those that focus on stimulating the female sex organ (the clitoris)? Why do these not work? The key reason is that women are not…

Understanding a man’s dependency on turn-ons

Although men have a sex drive, it is a psychological (or emotional) urge rather than a biological one. Men are dependent on the mental turn-on of an apparently engaged partner to provide their emotional satisfaction. This is difficult for women to understand. From a woman’s perspective if a man is hassling for sex then surely…

How women can enjoy vaginal fisting and anal sex

If a woman is feeling turned-on, she may be willing to allow a man to provide some more explicit stimulation that focuses on her arousal. When she is in the mood she may enjoy the pleasure of her own arousal as her lover stimulates her. If a couple has good communication and the man has…