Learn About Sexuality

Consensual sex

Sexuality is about our willingness to consent to sexual activity with others.

Child sexual abuse, incest and paedophilia

Men rarely appreciate that they tend to have control in sexual situations. Men may start with innocent activity but inevitably this leads to a desire for penetrative sex. Children of both sexes and teenage girls do not have the physical strength or the mental assertiveness to fight off unwanted advances from men. Many children who…

Domestic violence & emotional abuse in the home

Domestic violence crosses all ethnic, racial, orientation, religious and socioeconomic lines. Some societies feel that a man has the right to be physically aggressive as a means of asserting his authority. Bullying behaviour comes in various guises. Some approaches are cloaked in sentiments of love or even affection but they have an undercurrent of someone…

Sexual scenarios tend to be biased in men’s favour

Bravado is a way of covering up embarrassment. Adults use euphemisms to imply a fashionable sexual sophistication while avoiding the need to be explicit. Men talk about humping, screwing and banging. These words emphasise the male role of thrusting into a vagina. Women are the ones being humped, screwed or banged. Movies use sound effects…

Intercourse is a territorial act of male dominance

Intercourse begins with a man’s arousal because it relies on a man having an erection. Intercourse comes to an end with male orgasm and ejaculation because a man loses his erection. This is why male performance (the ability to become aroused and orgasm) is critical to heterosexual activity. Female performance has come to refer to…

The receiver of intercourse need not be aroused

The vast majority of heterosexual activity is based on intercourse that ends with male ejaculation. There are two distinct roles in penetrative sex: the penetrator is the person who penetrates (with an erect penis). Then there’s the person being penetrated (the receiver). The receiver can be either male or female. Homosexual men engage in anal…

Penetration is what makes sex erotic and taboo

Sex education should present the different moral and social issues that are raised by different behaviours in as unbiased a way as possible. Sex education should avoid judgemental opinions such as ‘wrong’ or ‘abnormal’. Sex education is about putting behaviours in context. Teenagers should understand that when their sexual choices involve interacting with a lover,…

The significance of nudity & being touched

Private parts refer to parts of the body that we may want (or be required) to cover up. Private parts include the genitals and the female breasts. Little girls are discouraged from showing their panties. Boys learn to keep their penis hidden. It may be considered ‘indecent’ to show too much bare flesh. Parents often…