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Male propaganda: saying women should enjoy sex

Sexual politics is created by men’s desire for intercourse. Men will not accept what women say about sex unless it accords with their own view. Specifically, they want to hear that a woman wants intercourse as much as they do. Men want to believe that women can orgasm from intercourse because this might make them more sexually willing. But this not logical. The evidence for female orgasm would be women’s enthusiasm for intercourse. Propaganda succeeds because of sexual ignorance. Bravado works against anyone who attempts to engage in constructive discussion.

If they approached the topic from a scientific perspective, men would have been willing to accept the research finding that women orgasm by masturbating. It is the obvious explanation for why female orgasm has been such a mystery for so long. It also explains why every generation of men is frustrated when their partner does not respond as the porno actresses do.

By refusing to accept women’s sexuality for what it is, men put emotional pressure on women. Men call women who don’t want sex frigid, which means unloving. If a woman loves a man then she should naturally want sex. Men say that it is normal and natural for everyone to want sex. Most women assume that it is their fault that they cannot be like men. Women’s embarrassment over sex gives men a political advantage. Men assume their greater interest in and knowledge of sexual matters qualifies them to define women’s sexuality for them. Even if a woman challenges their view, men react as they are entitled define women’s sexuality. The ego of “You obviously haven’t met the right man to make you orgasm!” indicates the male perspective. Women’s timidity over sex allows men to do this.

Considering the fuss they make about sex, men invest very little effort in trying to understand the female perspective. Men gloat over the pleasure they enjoy and, even worse, boast about the pleasure they think women enjoy. They never notice that their jubilation is one-sided. Women get tired of men talking of the pleasure that they enjoy without any sensitivity to the fact that women’s minds and bodies do not respond in the same way. Male propaganda silences women because of the implied sexual inadequacy.

Women also promote female sexuality because there is money to be made. It is all an act. Our society’s willingness to allow women to promote their sexuality, without ever being expected to justify their claimed experiences in explicit detail leads to much of the ignorance about female sexuality that we have today. Porno movies, directed by men, provide all the turn-ons that men enjoy. Obtaining intercourse is men’s key objective not female orgasm. Porn acts as an emotional security blanket reassuring men that women are always amenable to intercourse so that their sexual outlet is guaranteed.

Men are taller, heavier and stronger than women. Women don’t fight as men do. Only a very naïve person would suggest that men do not use this physical advantage to get what they want from women. Men don’t encourage women to work. In fact, men openly acknowledge that they like women to be financially dependent on them. Men know they can use this financial advantage to make women feel obliged to offer them regular sex in return.

Women don’t eulogise about male orgasm and neither do men boast about it. Men are clearly not interested in female orgasm as a scientific phenomenon. The interest in female orgasm is a political desire to promote orgasm claims, no matter how ridiculous. But men are much more active than women ever are about claiming female orgasm occurs especially with a lover. This is the political nature of the topic that interests more men than women. Men promote their own view because it is vitally important to them.

Male propaganda far outweighs any attempt by women to put men right. This is for a number of reasons:

  • Men’s interest in discussing sex ad nauseam far outweighs women’s extremely low to negative interest in the topic.
  • Men are physically and psychologically more forceful than women so they can use brute force to ensure that their view prevails.
  • Women want to be attractive to men. They cannot do this if they do not silently ignore men’s claims that sex is fantastic.
  • Women depend on men’s support to have children. So women have an emotional investment in their relationship with a man.

Ask a woman in any developing country and she will tell you that sex is for male pleasure and making babies. Try asking a woman in a developed country the same question and you get silence. Some heterosexuals enjoy the bravado of promoting intercourse as a mutual act. Female orgasm justifies women’s role in an activity that, in truth, focuses on male orgasm. The fact that women’s lifestyles are subsidised by their partners, is overlooked. Most people would be tempted by an offer of financial security for life. This is what marriage represents to women. There’s little to be gained by taking on conflict with a man who is supporting the family.

As the feminist group the Redstockings put it, for many women marriage is one of the few forms of employment that is readily available. (Hite 1993)