A woman’s sexual role focuses on what happens before intercourse. She needs to attract a man and arouse him sufficiently so that he wants to penetrate her. Men often compliment women on their looks. Women rarely return these compliments. Everyone accepts that the admiration is one way. A woman does not need reassurance from sex because she is reassured by a man’s admiration of her body. During sex, a woman should provide a man with explicitly erotic feedback by her behaviour or by what she says.
A woman doesn’t need to fake orgasm or even arousal. She can find other ways to be a responsive lover. Intercourse is similar to an erotic dance where a woman follows her lover’s lead. A woman can smile encouragingly. She can stoke his groin through his jeans or massage his penis more firmly. She can penetrate his mouth with her tongue while he is inside her vagina and synchronise moving her tongue with his thrusting.
A good female lover is relaxed about nudity and sexually explicit activities. A man enjoys a woman who uses explicit language. A woman should exaggerate as she describes the things she would like him to do to her. For a little variety, couples should plan some sessions in front of the TV. Watching porn movies during sex, can add a little spice for both lovers.
Women are not aroused with a lover, so they need to provide a simulated erotic response. By making small moans or sighs a woman can assist with her lover’s orgasm as well as provide a form of erotic feedback that indicates when stimulation is pleasurable. A woman pleasures a man by kissing, stroking and masturbating him. A man may last 2 seconds. He may ejaculate in her hand. It doesn’t really matter. It’s the man who is frustrated that he has missed out on intercourse. But there’s always another time.
Men tend to initiate sex so it can be a turn-on if a woman occasionally offers to pleasure a man or suggests what she would like. A woman can flirt by playing along with male fantasies. Arousing a man is easy! A woman can make sexual references or use erotic language to arouse him. This is not a deceit but simply frivolity. Exaggeration is part of the fun!
A woman can lick and suck gently on a man’s nipples. She can hold his erection and slowly but firmly move her hand up and down his shaft. She can move her hips over his erection and lower her vagina onto his penis. She can move to his rhythm of thrusting, grasp his buttocks or stroke his balls. She can kiss her lover passionately or run her fingers down his back.
Any man can enjoy the sensations of being penetrated simply to experience a novel sexual phenomenon. Such a desire is probably no more than simple curiosity and does not necessarily indicate any homosexual tendency. Men have a prostate inside the rectum that provides exquisite pleasure when stimulated and it is natural that they may want to experience this.
For men sexual opportunities are precious. So a man approaches sex with a sense of urgency and anxiety. Men want to enjoy the sensations of arousal from thrusting. Once engaged on intercourse men can orgasm quickly so a generous male lover offers to pleasure a woman before taking his orgasm. Older men may be able to delay ejaculating with a lover for 20 minutes or longer. They do this to extend the time they can enjoy sexual pleasuring.
If a woman spreads her legs, when lying face down, she can direct her partner to plant his erect penis firmly inside her vagina. She can ask him to keep still and try to make him come through her own efforts. She can reach down and feel the base of his penis. She can knead his buttocks and pull him from behind deeper inside her. She can feel the rigidity of his erection. If a man moves his weight onto his arms the woman can gyrate her hips or tighten her pelvic muscles rhythmically to give him more sensation.
Sometimes a woman can start a sex session by using either a hand or her mouth to stimulate her lover’s penis until she tires or he is ready to move to penetrative sex. She can then guide his erect penis into her vagina and move her hips to stimulate his penis. Lying on her back, a woman can bring her legs up and hug them around her lover’s back. If pressure on the cervix makes deep penetration uncomfortable, a woman can put her hand between her body and her lover’s body to stop his penis penetrating too deeply.
Most guys feel like they are always the initiator and that sets up disequilibrium on the passion scale in the relationship. (Les Parrot 2009)