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Sexual responsiveness is a male characteristic

The function of male orgasm is to trigger the ejaculation of sperm. When a man has an orgasm, he always ejaculates. A man can enjoy both as separate phenomena. Ejaculation is physical and orgasm is psychological. Male orgasm rewards a man for ejaculating and potentially impregnating a female. In modern times, the concept of female orgasm has been used in the same way: as a means of rewarding men for ejaculating.

There is no justification for female orgasm. A woman’s reproductive capacity depends on the automatic process of ovulation. Male orgasm is not directly linked to reproduction either but ejaculation is required for reproduction. Some small boys may orgasm without ejaculating but after adolescence, orgasm always triggers ejaculation. Indeed, there is no other physiological event (except orgasm) that could account for ejaculation.

Research indicates that when men are isolated (in prison for example) most men experience little arousal. So responsiveness is split into two distinct phenomena. Firstly there is the biological capability that an individual has. Then there is the opportunities a person has. If a man lacks a partner or has no access to erotic stimuli that arouse him, he may not be responsive at all.

As long as a man can get an erection (become aroused) a woman only needs to be amenable to intercourse. Men instinctively know that they have the greater sexual need. This is why men pursue and date women. A man has to impress a woman before she will agree to have sex with him. So sex feels like a male conquest. Male ego arises from the idea that a woman has chosen a man because of his sexual prowess. In fact usually a woman chooses a man for social reasons (protection, support and companionship).

A man’s challenge is that somehow he has to propose sexual activity against the background of women’s social natures. It isn’t easy. Risk of rejection is high but (depending the level of his sex drive) he is still compelled to try. Neither is it easy for a woman to take herself out of her social world and imagine herself to be in the erotic world that men live in. Women are not aroused by nudity, genitals and sexual activity as men are.

Once boys reach adolescence (defined by first ejaculation) they remain sexually active until old age. Kinsey found that men regularly masturbate or engage in penetrative sex throughout their lives. This is the male sex drive. Women have no such urge. Kinsey found that in general women were sexually active only when they have a partner. Women who are single, widowed or divorced can exist perfectly happily for decades without engaging in any sexual activity. Clearly women do not experience the same sexual needs most men do. Women enjoy emotional intimacy.

Kinsey warned of sexually inert spinsters who were commonly found in the educational institutions of his time. He remarked that teenage boys have more orgasms than these women have in their whole lives. What he did not appreciate is that these women are not seeking male approval. A few women are believed to have a problem because they are honest about their lack of sexual motivation. Millions of other women either actively support the male view of their sexuality or passively allow it to prevail.

Women have a sex organ but everything conspires against a woman having an orgasm. Women do not have the sex drive and resulting need for sexual release that men do. Women are not aroused by real world triggers as men are but only by surreal fantasies that only work when masturbating alone.

The clitoris does not develop as the penis does. The clitoris becomes tumescent but it is never erect, which is what makes the penis so sensitive to stimulation. For men, the corpora cavernosa are within the shaft of the penis. For women, they are within the internal clitoral orgasm. So during masturbation alone, once a woman is aroused, she uses her fingers and her pelvic muscles to massage the tumescent internal clitoral organ.

A woman who is responsive (who masturbates to orgasm) is highly unusual. Responsiveness is a harmless aspect of female sexuality that surfaces in random individuals. There is no advantage for a woman who is responsive. Not only do women orgasm much less commonly and less frequently than men do, they also need much longer to reach orgasm. Women experience orgasm most naturally through masturbation alone.

By 15 years of age, 92 per cent of the males have had orgasm, but at that same age less than a quarter of the female have had such experience; and the female population is 29 years old before it includes as high a percentage of experienced individuals as is to be found in the male curve at 15. (Alfred Kinsey 1948)

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