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How women masturbate themselves to orgasm

Female orgasm must be incredibly rare. If it were not, we would not have all the confusion over how it is achieved. So we are never going to have millions of women agreeing on how they orgasm. The best we can hope for is a scientific justification of women’s orgasm techniques. A woman masturbates by emulating the male thrusting role. Orgasm arises from stimulating the anatomy men and women have in common, the phallus.

A woman aligns herself mentally with the penetrator and stimulates her phallus (the clitoris). Women use fingers from both hands to massage the blood flow within the clitoral organ. This technique restricts the position in which she can masturbate. A woman needs to lie face down with her hands on her vulva. This position is best for thrusting. Orgasm is achieved by the combined stimulation of fingers, pelvic muscles and body weight on the clitoral organ. This technique is incompatible with a lover or a vibrator. A women’s masturbation techniques are not suited to providing male turn-ons. Men also like positions for intercourse that give them control of thrusting. They stand over, behind or on top of a woman to obtain the internal pressure, which intensifies the physical sensations of orgasm.

The initial catalyst for masturbation is the thought appearing in a woman’s mind that orgasm would be nice. Initially she may rely on material from erotic literature. She lies on her front somewhere comfortable like a bed, with her fingers from one hand over her vulva. She massages over her clitoris while reading. Over time she remembers the key passages by heart. These scenarios are reused many times simply by relying on memory.

There is a mandatory period of time upfront, when a woman has to decide whether she can generate enough arousal for orgasm. This is the most critical and the longest phase. A woman cycles through possible fantasies to see if her mind is going to respond. She homes in on the aspects of sex that she knows from past experience are most likely to arouse her sufficiently for orgasm. She only uses a handful of scenarios.

During this time she keeps her fingers in position over the top of the glans (protected by the surrounding skin) and moves her hips from side to side. While a woman is waiting for the inspiration of the fantasy to take effect, she places her hands in position over her vulva and periodically pushes her fingers down over her clitoris. She moves her hips from side to side or in a circular motion while concentrating on her fantasy.

One of the first signs of arousal is a very slight genital response to her mind responding positively to a sexual scenarios. When she massages her clitoris she may feel a slight tingling sensation. She is conscious of a slight sense of excitement, and an increase in heart-rate or breathing. She can feel an anticipation of sexual excitement as her genitals become tumescent.

If she is not ‘in the mood’ then fantasies that would normally arouse her seem unappealing. She just abandons the idea. Even after she has started stimulating herself or considering what fantasy to use, she may conclude that she is not sufficiently aroused for orgasm. There may be a mild sense of disappointment but there is no sense of sexual frustration.

Once she has engaged on a fantasy scenario that arouses her, a woman needs to put firm and regular pressure on the internal organ by clenching her buttocks and pushing her fingers down and into the spongy tissue below the vulva and either side of the vaginal entrance. A woman uses her index finger (primarily) from each hand too press down over the clitoris through the skin around (the labia) and over (the hood of) the clitoris.

The first time she discovers orgasm, a woman may use her fingers to massage over the clitoris through her panties. She soon prefers the more tactile stimulation of using her fingers directly on the skin. A woman holds her breath as she concentrates, followed by a sharp intakes of breath. If someone is sleeping nearby, she tries to avoid gasping and disturbing them.

When a woman feels the sensations of arousal building, she presses down more firmly over the spongy tissue surrounding the labia (immediately below the pubic bone). She uses her fingers to exert pressure through the skin, kneading the internal clitoral organ, by rhythmically by pushing her fingers over the glans towards the perineum. With her index fingers, she massages over the bud and her second fingers press either side of her labia.

A woman stimulates herself much less aggressively than the action men use to masturbate. She uses a ‘squeeze’ technique, which thrusts the pelvis forward. The clitoral organ is squeezed between her fingers in front (external) and her pelvic muscles behind (internal). While masturbating, a woman’s focus is on the fantasy in her head. She uses both hands to push down firmly and closes her eyes as she orgasms. She provides stimulation at crucial moments of arousal during her fantasy. Once her mind tunes into a fantasy a woman can orgasm within a minute or two.

… a high percentage of all the females who masturbate use techniques which involve some sort of rhythmic stimulation of the clitoris, usually with a finger or several fingers or the whole hand. (Alfred Kinsey 1953)

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