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How women masturbate themselves to orgasm

Kinsey concluded that masturbation was not only the quickest way for a woman to orgasm but also the most reliable way (95% success rate). Kinsey found that female orgasm was more easily achieved, in 4 minutes, compared with 10 to 20 minutes or longer during sex.

Research indicates that two out of every five women (42%) never masturbate while a similar number (38%) try masturbation but are not motivated to continue. But these are women who are confident to come forward and talk about orgasm in surveys. Women’s reluctance to discuss sexual phenomena suggest that female masturbation is much less commonplace in the general population.

Male and female masturbation techniques are similar in that men and women both stimulate the external genitalia (penis or clitoris). The difference arises by comparing masturbation with intercourse. Men may assume that female masturbation simulates intercourse. But this is not so. A woman does not masturbate by replicating the sensations of vaginal penetration (that is of course if she is aiming for orgasm). For a start women stimulate the clitoris, not the vagina.

Women’s masturbation techniques only involve tiddling with their vulva and facing the audience if they are providing a display for male observers. During intercourse a woman cooperates with male thrusting, by opening her legs wide and gyrating her hips to assist with stimulation of the penis. She typically lies on her back and her eyes are open. The position a woman assumes when masturbating (the clitoris) is quite different from the one she assumes to allow penetration (of the vagina).

A woman lies face down to masturbate, with her legs relatively close together and her eyes closed. This provides a similar freedom of movement men get from standing while masturbating. Men also prefer positions for intercourse that allow them free movement for thrusting. They generally choose to stand over, behind or on top of a woman so that they can obtain the internal pressure needed for orgasm. The possibility of achieving deep penetration and internal pressure intensifies orgasm and ejaculation.

A woman’s stimulation techniques are less explicit than a man’s. The clitoris does not have a shaft to manipulate. A woman uses a ‘humping’ motion to thrust her vulva against her fingers. She stimulates herself by using her fingers to exert a firm pressure through the skin increasing the pressure (a rhythmic massaging motion) on the internal clitoral organ as climax is reached. She simultaneously provides rhythmic pressure from behind by tensing the muscles of the thighs and the buttocks. This pressures the clitoral organ both from in front (external) and behind (internal). This is effectively a ‘squeeze’ technique.

Women’s masturbation techniques are much more inflexible than a man’s. She cannot orgasm with a lover or with an audience of any kind. She lies on her front with her hands between her legs with her eyes closed. Specifically, she does not observe herself or her genitals during the performance or at any other time. Her own genitals have no emotional significance to a woman. She needs to concentrate on her fantasy. This involves a complete mental block-out on any external stimuli.

Women’s fantasies (that lead to orgasm) do not revolve around intercourse. Women, who masturbate to orgasm, use erotic fantasies as a conscious psychological technique for the sole purpose of enjoying orgasm. During the initial phase of masturbation nothing happens. She lies there waiting for the inspiration of an effective fantasy. But once that spark takes light, within a minute or two the whole thing is over. The build-up is quick and the sensations of release are sexually satisfying. The aftermath of orgasm involves a sense of release followed by blissful relaxation.

As a mature woman (especially if the arousal phase extends for more than a few minutes) vaginal lubrication can get in the way of her fingers providing the stimulation (traction of dry fingers) that she needs to orgasm. After orgasm her vulva remains swollen. Post-orgasm the area alongside her labia is still mildly pleasurable to touch and her clitoris has a tiny blip of sensitivity if gently touched.

A woman isn’t driven to masturbate. Her motivation initially is simple curiosity. Masturbation is very enjoyable but a woman is unlikely to interrupt other activities to engage in it. She usually considers masturbation when she is already lying in bed either on waking or on going to sleep. A woman pleasures herself alone but this is a personal experience involving a considerable effort. Sometimes she just can’t be bothered. It’s too much effort to obtain the significant but relatively small pleasure of orgasm.

Nevertheless, erotic arousal and orgasm where it occurs among younger boys and among females appears to involve the same sequence of physiologic events that has been described for the older, ejaculating males; and many of the younger boys and most of the older females who have contributed to the present study have been able to supply apparently reliable records of such experience. (Alfred Kinsey 1948)

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