Learn About Sexuality

Committed relationships

Sexuality is about a committed relationship (including social, emotional & sexual activity).

The role of relationship therapists & counsellors

Adults are embarrassed about sex because of their emotional insecurities. Our emotional needs include a need to impress, a need to belong and a need to be valued. Some people lack self-esteem, which stems from anxiety. Women tend to be much less confident than men, which is quite natural. We avoid discussing relationship issues for…

Anorgasmia, preorgasmia and vaginismus

The idea that a heterosexual couple engages in any sexual activity that does not culminate in intercourse is unthinkable for most people. Men focus on intercourse because of their sex drive. Nature that ensures that most men want intercourse above all other activity because it leads to reproduction. The vast majority of female sexual dysfunctions…

Premature ejaculation and male impotence

The objective of a mating act is for the male to deposit his semen in the female’s vagina. From a reproductive perspective, the quicker the better. For highly responsive men, sexual thoughts are frequently on their mind. They are often aroused throughout the day. When they have an opportunity for sex with a partner their…

The misunderstandings behind sexual dysfunction

True sexual dysfunctions are very rare. The word ‘dysfunction’ implies that something is not working properly. To define ‘dysfunctional’ we must also know what is ‘normal’. But we also need to be explicit about whether we are talking about reproductive function, orgasm or emotional pleasure. Intercourse is a mating act. As long as a man…

Sex as a bargaining chip in loving relationships

Relationships of any kind are an inevitable compromise. No two individuals, even of the same sex, have exactly the same priorities at exactly the same time. When we are single, we can focus on our own needs. But when we have a relationship with another person, we need to consider their needs as well as…

The misconceptions that arise from pornography

Orgasm involves focused concentration and responding instinctively to feelings that blot out the real world, A person typically closes their eyes, pulls a face, pants and groans as least a little in the build up to and while having an orgasm. Women always appear delectable and their make-up is not even smudged both in in…

Men & women’s perspectives on relationships

Sexuality is about a sexual relationship, which includes social, emotional and sexual aspects. Long-term committed relationships are vital to supporting families over the decades needed to raise children. A man tends to focus on his sexual needs but a woman wants an affectionate companion. We have two sexes, which complement each other by being different.…