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Only men are aroused by the prospect of sex

Humans (and other mammals) have the ability to remember past events and to form associations with those past events. If the event was particularly significant then we are likely to feel similar emotions the next time we are faced with the same situation. For example, when we enjoy a particular meal. The next time we…

Sexual pleasuring a woman may enjoy

A woman needs time for her mind to tune into the sensations of being stimulated. Build-up with a partner takes much longer than a couple of minutes. But also the sensations are more pleasurable and physically intense as a man continues to stimulate a woman. A woman’s mind has no conscious focus except the sensations…

How couples can communicate over sex

Today we talk about ‘hooking up’ and ‘performance’. Euphemisms communicate a sophistication of being trendy but also avoid using sexually explicit vocabulary. No one talks about orgasm explicitly. It’s all about multiple orgasms or how intense an orgasm is. Bravado is a way of covering up embarrassment over discussing sexual issues explicitly. Women boast about…

How we know that female masturbation is rare

Women represent a particular educational challenge because they are not nearly as curious as men are about sexual phenomena. Women often fail to realise that they are ignorant of the specifics of sexual response. They are unaware of the sexual content out there fictional or otherwise. Women rarely participate in any kind of informed sexual…

Orgasm has no effect on women’s interest in sex

When talking about sex, adults often fail to take into account the very different experiences we have. We may also have very different responses to the same experience because of our different personalities. Being married for 30 years is very different to being single. Living with a man who wants sex every day is different…

Women are not respected for being promiscuous

When we talk about a man defending his honour, we mean that he is motivated to fight an opponent to demonstrate that he can beat a rival. When we talk about a woman defending her honour, we mean that she fights off unwanted suitors and that she defends her right to choose her lover. One…

Women do not need to be like men to be valid

Most people base their beliefs about how women are assumed to enjoy sexual pleasure (usually equated with orgasm) on what they see in pornography or read in erotic literature without accounting for the fact that these are fictional sources intended to cause arousal. Even sex educators promote sex as if it is always easily pleasurable…