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How men masturbate themselves to orgasm

Men orgasm through intercourse on average within 2 minutes of penetration. Although men prefer sex (especially as they age and their hormone levels fall) over masturbating alone, they orgasm more quickly (on average within one to two minutes) through the more specific physical stimulation that masturbation provides.

For reproductive reasons everything about intercourse is preferable to the average heterosexual male. Men’s sex drive is aimed at penetration rather than orgasm. So masturbation is usually a poor substitute for intercourse. Masturbation relies on being able to imagine turn-ons whereas, with a partner, the look and feel of her body as well as her behaviour provide the maximum turn-ons that a man needs to achieve his optimum sexual release.

Men are naturally and easily aroused by kissing and caressing the body of a sexual partner. So men only need to use fantasy to boost their natural arousal. For example, men use pornography when masturbating in the absence of a lover. Young men transition naturally to sex because the body of a real sexual partner substitutes for the images from pornographic magazines. The male mind slips fairly effortlessly
from the real world into fantasy.

There is a link between masturbation frequencies and creative imagination. Boys only start to use fantasies once they have some sexual experience (either alone or with a partner). A boy engages in fantasies (at least to start with) because he enjoys remembering a real life episode. He uses his memories (perhaps enhanced over time by imagination) to achieve what initially occurred spontaneously or through physical stimulation alone.

Men are usually very flexible in where and in what position they are able to masturbate themselves. They have no difficulty being masturbated to orgasm by an encouraging partner. Some men can masturbate in public such as in front of their same-sex friends. The most natural position for male masturbation is standing up. The standing position provides the opportunity to clench the buttocks. But men can also masturbate when sitting or lying down if they are with a lover for example.

Men have their eyes open while masturbating to enjoy looking at a lover or to look at pornographic images. A man may also observe his penis while he is masturbating. Having an erection is emotionally significant to men. Their pride in their erection also increases their sense of arousal. As he approaches orgasm, a man raises himself up on tiptoe and pushes his hips forward. This has the effect of tightening the buttock muscles, which is a general characteristic of the stimulation needed for orgasm.

Male masturbation techniques involve simulating intercourse as much as one can by using a hand. Both the penile stimulation and the mental turn-ons replicate a real-life opportunity for intercourse. It is worth noting that a man stimulates the same anatomy that is involved in intercourse. A man masturbates by using a manual technique to simulate the sensations of penetration. A man uses the fingers of one hand to massage the sheath of skin covering the shaft of the penis up and down over the glans. This action causes the penis to be stimulated in a similar way to intercourse. A thrusting motion and a tightening of the pelvic muscles occurs in the lead up to orgasm. Masturbation provides more specific stimulation but intercourse has the benefit of providing a warm and wet environment.

Men do not eulogise especially about their own orgasm. Some men like to delay ejaculation with a lover for as long as possible in order to enjoy the sensations of intercourse. Others (especially younger men) are more strongly focused on getting to ejaculation as quickly as possible. Masturbation clearly fulfils quite different functions for men and women. Male masturbation is primarily a kind of safety valve for young men’s sex drive. Whereas women masturbate in order to enjoy orgasm. Masturbation is more significant to a woman because it provides the optimal (and essentially only) environment for her to experience orgasm.

Male masturbation simulates the male role in intercourse. Female masturbation also simulates the male role in intercourse. The massaging motion over the glans is similar for both sexes. Men and women also tighten the buttock muscles in a similar way to pressure the sex organ from within the body. The main difference is that a woman doesn’t have a shaft to stimulate. Her technique cannot therefore mimic intercourse as closely as a man’s can. A woman provides pressure from the front by pressing her fingers into the clitoral organ as orgasm is reached. This perhaps replicates the sensation a man has when thrusting into a woman’s body, of coming up against a firm stop point. There is a satisfaction in pressing the penis or clitoris up against something firm just as orgasm is reached.

Fantasies, as a matter of fact, often provide the stimulus which initiates the male’s masturbation. (Alfred Kinsey 1953)

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