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Sex drive: a need to ejaculate through intercourse

Sex is natural for a man because the urge to engage in intercourse comes from his own body. A man responds to a subconscious reproductive drive. His conscious mind focuses on the pleasure of thrusting until ejaculation, which is the most satisfying way for men to release their sexual emotions.

A man is incentivised to engage in intercourse by:

  • his erection (his arousal is triggered by the presence of a partner);
  • his desire to enjoy the erotic pleasure of penetrating and thrusting into another person’s body; and
  • his territorial instinct to deposit semen within another person’s orifice (primarily a vagina).

A woman never experiences any of these phenomena. In this sense a woman does not have a sex drive. A woman may be emotionally amenable to offering intercourse to a lover who provides her with affectionate companionship and support. Women are not aroused by real-world stimuli. Men cover up their regular arousal, to avoid offending women.

Orgasm does not encapsulate all of the erotic, sensual and emotional pleasures men enjoy from sex. Men are not motivated by orgasm itself (which ends their enjoyment of engaging in sexual activity) but by the rewards of engaging in intercourse. Men obtain an optimal sexual release from penetrating and ejaculating into another person’s body. Men clearly want more than orgasm from sex, otherwise they would masturbate and be done. Yet orgasm is used to encapsulate all of women’s sexual pleasure.

We are not driven to be the person penetrated. Men can probably accept this for their own anatomy. A man does not have a drive to be penetrated anally, for example. A homosexual man accepts anal penetration in much the same way that a woman accepts vaginal penetration. There is a satisfaction in providing a lover with the pleasure of penetration as well as the reward of feeling appreciated and desired. Men additionally have the pleasure of stimulation of the prostate gland that women do not have.

No one can have a drive to be penetrated by a penis or any other object. For example, the mouth is not anatomy that can have a drive to be penetrated by a penis. Neither is there any attractive force that emanates from a vagina and is directed towards a dildo or penis. The only attractive force is from the erect penis (the mind of the aroused man) towards the vagina as a repository for his semen. It is the process of mental arousal that causes blood to flow to the genitals that causes men to be motivated to penetrate a person’s body. This process is muted in women but also a woman does not have a sex organ that can be used for penetration.

For successful reproduction:

  • A man has a sex organ capable of penetration.
  • Most men must be motivated to penetrate a woman’s body.
  • Men need to be attracted primarily to fertile women.

A man’s sexuality is selfish because a man needs sexual release regardless of the consequences. In women’s eyes this seems to be immoral because they have no comparable experience. This is how males have evolved. Male sex drive goes with a personal drive to support the family by working.

Male sex drive arises from the build up of sexual tension (through acute arousal) that can only be fully relieved through engaging in intercourse. Once men are aroused they experience an urgent and pressing drive to engage in penetrative sex. This male sex drive fuels both the prostitution and the pornography industries as well as relationship sex.

For reproductive reasons most men need to be attracted to young and healthy women (most of the time). There must be a mechanism that causes this to happen. The mental process of sexualising women causes men to prefer intercourse with women (rather than men or children). But as with all sexual differentiation, not everyone has the same sexual preferences.

The fact is – and it’s a big one – across every culture and every eon it’s been shown in myriad ways that women are far less sexually driven than men. (Joan Sewell 2010)