There have always been some women who are willing to offer men sex on demand. But they want to be paid. By far the most common form of prostitution involves women providing sexual services to men. The second most common sexual service is for gay men (4% of the male population). Women usually pay male escorts for companionship rather than sex. Prostitution is least common among lesbians (2% of the female population).
Women are admired and respected for being wives and mothers. Women are not respected for being a mistress or prostitute. Most women are embarrassed by references to the so-called pleasure quarter, which equates sex to a transaction and highlights the function of women’s bodies as a sexual commodity for male consumption. In the red-light district of any city (often near the train station), women are employed to provide men with sexual pleasure or just sexual relief. Women typically go into prostitution as a last resort and out of desperation. Other women find a way to accept the disadvantages and see prostitution simply as an easy way of earning a living. Unfortunately, it is not possible to buy the platonic and loving intimacy (based on affection) that women hope for when they love someone.
The men who are most likely to use prostitutes are under thirty and less educated than average. Some men pay for sex as easily as they would for a massage. It is likely that many more men would pay for sex were it not for the social taboo. Some men may find a prostitute unsatisfying because they want a lover to appreciate their lovemaking. Cheaper prostitutes do not feel obliged to make any pretence of being aroused. A classier prostitute may be more proactive but only because she is paid. Some men look for an emotional connection. Sex can be more interesting when you know something about a lover. Women employ behaviours with a lover that are consciously motivated, rather than being a natural response to eroticism.
Male prostitutes ejaculate (coincident with male orgasm) with a client. Female prostitutes do not orgasm with a lover. A hooker is someone who hooks or traps clients. Most women would never be a prostitute even if they were well paid. Prostitution is dangerous work and the risk of assault is high. Men may resent prostitutes because they capitalise on men’s sexual need.
If women experienced orgasm with a lover, prostitution as we know it would not exist. A woman can service many men almost indefinitely because she experiences no arousal, no orgasm and no recovery period. No one can have an orgasm to order but an orifice can be offered at any time. At a most basic level, heterosexual activity involves a woman allowing a man to ejaculate into one of her orifices: either her vagina, her mouth or her anus.
In any sexual scenario, men can escape responsibility much more easily than a woman can. A woman is shamed by society for being a prostitute but men are rarely shamed for visiting a prostitute. Women who sell sex to men can easily be identified but the men involved can usually remain anonymous. Yet women only respond to the demand from men. Women take advantage of a man’s need for sex to make money. Most women go into prostitution as a last resort to earn money and sometimes in order to support their children by absent fathers. Some women find that offering sexual services is an easy way to earn a living. Men make most of the money out of the sex industry by employing low-paid women. Prostitution is a service that allows men to enjoy sexual release with a partner. It is naïve to think that prostitution could ever be abolished. Some men (regardless of their relationship status) they will always be prepared to pay women for sex.
Some men want more specific sexual services related to a fetish or perversion. Even men can be ashamed of their responses. Women in the sex industry provide for these sexual needs. This servicing saves other less worldly women from having to engage on the true nature of some men’s carnal needs. Much of the violence men show towards prostitutes reflects their frustration at not obtaining the sex they need from their partners.
In most countries, prostitution is illegal. Holland and Germany are notable exceptions. Some people believe that legalising prostitution equates to condoning the practice of men paying to use women’s bodies for sex. Others support decriminalisation, which offers prostitutes (who register) a safer working environment, medical support but in return for paying taxes.
Prostitutes have been relabelled sex workers but prostitution is still linked with organised crime, violence, abduction and slavery. The problem is the male brothel owners and male pimps who exploit and abuse. We have the impression that women are offering nude images, sex chat or sex on the internet but most of this content is posted by men. Most of the money in the sex industry is made by men. Men know exactly what other men want.
We find that about 69 per cent of the total while male population ultimately has some experience with prostitutes. Many of these males, however, never have more than a single experience or two, and not more than 15 or 20 per cent of them ever have such relations more often than a few times a year, over as much as a five-year period in their lives. This means that there is nearly a third (31%) of the population that never has any sort of sexual contact with prostitutes. (Alfred Kinsey 1948)