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Why women cannot orgasm through intercourse

Orgasm is vital to men, so it is assumed to be equally vital for women.

(1) A woman is impregnated regardless of orgasm
Male orgasm triggers ejaculation, which is needed for reproduction. A woman cannot ejaculate because she lacks the male glands. Since ovulation occurs automatically, there is no reason for a woman to orgasm at any time.

(2) Intercourse is totally defined by male responses
Intercourse is a demonstration of the male arousal cycle, from erection to ejaculation. Consequently, a woman cannot determine the length of time intercourse will last. It is not possible for anyone to orgasm from stimulation that lasts for a period of time determined by another person. A woman is supposed to be satisfied when intercourse ends but her satisfaction derives primarily from her relief that the man has achieved his sexual release.

(3) Women orgasm much less frequently than men do
Orgasm does not occur like pressing a button. Each person experiences orgasm with a specific frequency. Women orgasm on average once every two weeks regardless of age. Men orgasm much more frequently than women. It is not possible for a woman to orgasm every time a man does.

(4) Women need more time to orgasm than men do
Men masturbate to orgasm within 1 minute or so. Intercourse may be more rewarding but the stimulation is more indirect. So it takes them longer. Most men (three-quarters of them) orgasm on average within two minutes of initiating intercourse, which is not long enough for a woman to achieve orgasm. A woman is assumed to be able to engineer her orgasm to occur within this two minute window. Research indicates that women need 4 minutes to orgasm alone and 10 to 20 minutes or longer with a lover.

(5) Women need emotional factors to be amenable to intercourse
Men are aroused by intercourse regardless of emotional factors. This is because orgasm occurs as a result of psychological arousal and physical stimulation. An erotic stimulus causes arousal regardless of emotional circumstances. Women are not aroused by opportunities for intercourse because there is nothing erotic about being impregnated. The emotional environment of rape is certainly very different to consensual intercourse. But the physical stimulation of rape is not so different. It is not possible for an act that causes women so much distress to also cause sexual arousal.

(6) Intercourse is not erotic for a woman
Women are told there is something wrong with them if they are not aroused by intercourse. But intercourse is only erotic from the point of view of the male penetrator. Women are not aroused by real-world triggers with a lover as men are. Women use fantasies during masturbation alone. But with a lover, they cannot achieve the required focus on erotic fantasy.

(7) A woman cannot obtain the correct stimulation with a lover
The position a woman assumes to allow penetration of the vagina is incompatible with how female orgasm is achieved. During intercourse a woman cooperates with male thrusting, by spreading her legs and gyrating her hips to assist with stimulation of the penis. She typically lies on her back and her eyes are open. Intercourse does not allow the woman to stimulate the clitoral organ correctly, by massaging down over the clitoral glans with her fingers, while thrusting her hips and tensing her buttock muscles.

(8) Orgasm ends sexual activity that is focused on achieving it
Any activity that culminates in orgasm, naturally ends once a person has achieved orgasm. This explains why men lose interest in continuing sexual activity once they have had an orgasm. If women were as responsive as men, then logically for about half the time sexual activity would end with a woman’s orgasm. But for reproductive reasons, a woman has to be willing to allow intercourse to continue until a man ejaculates.

(9) Women are meant to be unresponsive with a lover
Women’s reproductive role is to be amenable to and to cooperate with intercourse until a man ejaculates. If women could orgasm through their own efforts or if they were motivated to stimulate a lover (by hand or by mouth), intercourse would be less likely and reproduction less successful.

(10) Orgasm cannot be defined to suit the individual
The nature of sexual reproduction means that we are all different and unique. But we are all made from a common gene pool. Orgasm is a basic physiological response of the human body so it is not possible for one individual to have a unique response. It is difficult to disprove one woman’s orgasm claims but we can use women’s sexual behaviours to discount them.

The vagina has no anatomical structure that can cause orgasm. (Vincenzo & Giulia Puppo 2014)