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Sex drive: a need to ejaculate through intercourse

Sex is natural for a man because the urge to engage in intercourse comes from his own body. A man responds to a subconscious reproductive drive. His conscious mind focuses on the pleasure of thrusting until ejaculation, which is the most satisfying way for men to release their sexual emotions.
A man is incentivised to engage in intercourse by:

  • his erection (his arousal is triggered by the presence of a partner);
  • his desire to enjoy the erotic pleasure of penetrating and thrusting into another person’s body; and
  • his territorial instinct to deposit semen within another person’s orifice (primarily a vagina).

A woman never experiences any of these phenomena. Women are embarrassed by sex because the urge to engage in intercourse comes from a man’s body. Sex is something that men do to women. Most women prefer to view sex as an emotional rather than an erotic experience. Responsiveness seems to be a crude and impersonal response to women.

Women are not aroused by real-world erotic stimuli such as body parts. Women find men’s erotic turn-ons and genital responses both crude and offensive, so men cover up their regular arousal, to avoid offending women. A woman may be emotionally amenable to offering intercourse to a lover who provides her with affectionate companionship and support. Passive acquiescence is such an accepted female behaviour that no one ever questions why only men are proactive about offering sexual admiration and genital stimulation for a lover. Typically women do neither of these things.

We can define male sex drive as an instinctive and reproductive urge to penetrate another person with an erect penis and to thrust until ejaculation. Women cannot have the same urge by definition. They do not have an erect organ to penetrate with. The clitoris is only ever tumescent (rather than rigid) and is largely an internal organ. So women never experience an urge to penetrate another person’s body with an aroused sex organ. Nor are they aroused by such opportunities. So women have no comparable experience.

Women do not ejaculate genetic material. Their eggs are stored within the ovaries and released on a monthly cycle. So there is no biological reason for a woman to engage in intercourse. This explains why women do not initiate sexual activity and why they are not aroused with a lover. These facts are difficult for a man to accept because of the strength of his own drive to obtain a release of accumulated sexual tension by engaging in intercourse.

But some women do experience a residual thrusting instinct. When little girls masturbate, they lie face down with their hands between their legs and thrust with their hips. This is the instinctive mammalian thrusting action of the male in the mating act. This is similar to when a male dog humps someone’s leg. But there is a difference. The male dog is responding to an urge that is motivated by his reproductive drive to ejaculate into a female’s body. We can say that his behaviour is focused. If he had the opportunity he would engage in the mating act for real. A girl can never have this opportunity. A girl’s behaviour is a subconscious reflex that is a hangover from how our anatomy evolved. Her behaviour is unfocused. She cannot penetrate anyone so she can never be the penetrator in the mating act. Little girls do not orgasm because female orgasm relies on using adult fantasies.

Responsive women discover orgasm because their minds respond positively to eroticism. A responsive woman dislikes pornography as much as any other woman. A responsive woman enjoys eroticism through surreal fantasies that do not involve real people or real situations. They are artificial scenarios that put a woman in control of the action. She can imagine herself being the person who is penetrated as well as the penetrator. This role of being a penetrator does not mean that she thinks like a man. She retains her female identity but she focuses on the intimacy and eroticism of penetration by a phallus. Likewise, the climax of the fantasy comes from the satisfaction of the proactive role and the concept of male ejaculation.

For successful reproduction:

  • A man has a sex organ capable of penetration.
  • Most men must be motivated to penetrate a woman’s body.
  • Men need to be attracted primarily to fertile women.

A man’s sexuality is selfish because men need sexual release regardless of the consequences. In women’s eyes this seems immoral because they have no comparable experience. This is how males have evolved. Male sex drive arises from the build-up of sexual tension (through regular and significant arousal) that can only be fully relieved through engaging in intercourse. This male need drives both the prostitution and the pornography industries.

The fact is – and it’s a big one – across every culture and every eon it’s been shown in myriad ways that women are far less sexually driven than men. (Joan Sewell 2010)