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Rejection of statistical sex research

We see vibrators advertised everywhere and women eulogising about the orgasms they think they have. But this is not a statistical sample. The millions of women who never buy a vibrator or buy one and find it does nothing for them are never heard. This is the difference between personal opinions and true scientific research based on statistical sampling methods.

Some people suggest that generalisations are useless because they are not always true. For example, we can say that men are generally taller than women. This is a generalisation but it is also a fact. Generalisations can be useful if we understand that there are exceptions. Statistical research is useful because it gives us an idea of what activities or experiences are usual. But if we don’t have the average experience, it doesn’t make us abnormal.

The value in using sampling techniques (to ensure that the sample is representative of the general population), is that the finding can be applied to a much bigger population than the original sample. However, conclusions can only be extended to the population if the research is based on individuals who are selected in a way that creates a representative sample.

By asking women about orgasm, both Kinsey and Hite revealed some of the truth about women’s sexuality. These findings challenged male beliefs about how and when women should orgasm. So the approach was quickly abandoned. The idea that female orgasm occurs during masturbation alone (rather than with a lover) was unpopular. Most women are not responsive so masturbation holds little interest for them. They prefer to rely on a lover to provide all the motivation and stimulation involved in sexual activity.

Experts today quote from Alfred Kinsey’s work by asserting that 10% of women never orgasm by any means. They also quote from Shere Hite’s work by reassuring us that only 30% of women orgasm from intercourse. No one explains why the rest of their findings have been ignored.

Given the lack of precedents for female orgasm elsewhere in the animal kingdom, we need strong evidence to support the human phenomenon. Kinsey found that women who engaged in sexual activity alone (masturbation) were successful in achieving orgasm 95% of the time. But he found that only two out of every five women (40%) who engaged in sexual activity with a lover (intercourse) said it was possible to orgasm three times out of four (75% of the time). The rest found orgasm to be less reliable and a considerable number did not believe orgasm was possible with a lover.

A problem with surveys and simple ‘yes/no’ questions is that there is no way of knowing if someone knows what they are talking about. Once you have had an orgasm, not only do you know that you have had one but you also assume that anyone who has not had an orgasm, knows that they have not had one. But it is much more difficult to be sure about a lack of orgasm.

When researchers ask “Do you orgasm from intercourse?”, the very act of asking the question implies that ‘yes’ is a legitimate reply as if such a feat is known to be possible. Some women reply: “Well I’m not sure if I have ever had an orgasm, perhaps once or twice.” The researcher says “OK what percentage would you say – perhaps 10% of the time?” She says “OK yes perhaps 10% of the time.” Another woman says “Yes I think I do sometimes but not always.” “Do you think perhaps 75% of the time?” “Yes maybe 75% of the time.” These statistics are a measure of women’s uncertainty about orgasm and not a true orgasm frequency. Success rates are never used to categorise male orgasms. A man has an orgasm – period.

It is unlikely that women who say orgasm is impossible with a lover are mistaken. It is much less certain that women who think they might orgasm are not mistaken. Researchers need to understand human psychology. Men equate claims of female orgasm to women wanting sex. Women in turn want to be attractive to men. A woman who admits to not having an orgasm with a lover is considered to be frigid, unloving and sexually dysfunctional.

Shere Hite’s findings were based on a sample of 3,500 women. Around half of the women said they “never or rarely orgasm from intercourse”. Imagine a room full of women. You ask them: “Do you orgasm from intercourse?” The first woman says “No”. The second woman says “Yes” and so on. What conclusion would you draw? The answer is that you can’t. The result is inconclusive because women don’t know. But this is why you are asking the question in the first place. If women knew, no one would have to ask.

People are often unaware of their own ignorance. Others are reluctant to admit they don’t know the answer. It’s human nature. Given a question with two possible answers even if women are just guessing, the result would be a 50:50 split given a large enough sample. That’s how probabilities work.

… the mysterious G-spot … I found it irresponsible to claim the existence of an entity that has never been proven, using in some cases a cohort of just 30 women worldwide. (Andrea Burri 2011)