Understanding sexuality includes a discussion of reproduction, sexual responsiveness and sexual anatomy. Sex is foremost about the mating act we see in Nature. Intercourse relies on a man’s arousal and a woman’s willingness to allow him to thrust into her vagina until he ejaculates. Most women need to feel an emotional attachment for a man before offering sex.
Understanding sexuality includes a discussion of consent, the mating act and the value of non-sexual intimacy. Men associate sex with eroticism and sexual pleasure while women associate sex with a loving relationship and family. These different perspectives arise because men have much higher levels of responsiveness than women have, especially with a lover.
Understanding sexuality includes a discussion of our enjoyment of sexual fantasies, masturbation and how orgasm is achieved regardless of gender and orientation. Very few women experience responsiveness, which occurs when the mind responds positively to erotic stimuli. Only responsive women discover orgasm through masturbation alone by using fantasies.
Understanding sexuality includes a discussion of intimate relationships, the sex industry and sexual pleasuring. Men interpret sex as an erotic act where they enjoy their own sexual release. Some men offer foreplay to enjoy their own arousal. Women interpret sex as a lovemaking act, where a man makes love to her as a demonstration of his commitment to her.
Young people know nothing and no one ever educates them in sexuality. Most adults assume that their own interpretation of their own experiences can be used to define everyone else’s sexuality. Scientific understanding involves studying the behaviours and responses of the whole population. Researchers must challenge what they are told. It is natural that we all want to feel that our sexual experiences are ‘normal’. But we must differentiate between responses to eroticism and emotional sensations with a lover.
There is little mystery to male sexuality. Both the physical stimulation and erotic turn-ons required for male arousal and orgasm are clear not only to the man himself but also to his partner. Female sexuality has always been more controversial. Even today female arousal and orgasm remain a mystery. Clearly women do not respond sexually in such a way that men can divine what turn-ons and stimulation their lovers need for orgasm.
A comprehensive sex education should expose the emotional beliefs that cause many people to prefer sexual ignorance over sexual knowledge. Men are typically intent on confirming their fantasies, which constitute a justification for sex. Some women insist on being portrayed in way that is attractive to men. The highly emotional nature of sex makes it difficult to accept facts and logic even when these indicate that our intuition is wrong.
If sex education is to fulfil its purpose, then it needs to provide logical and factual explanations. If it is to be trusted, a sex education must present both the negative and the positive aspects of sexuality in a constructive way. A sex education provides consistent explanations in terms of the research findings as well as the biological precedents. It puts human sexuality in perspective relative to other animals, especially mammals and primates. It indicates which aspects of sexuality are usual and which are less common.
We can demonstrate an unbiased view by presenting:
- The research findings including a discussion of the issues that may have caused us to draw the wrong conclusions;
- The biological and evolutionary precedents for sexual function;
- How and why men and women’s sexual behaviours differ; and
- How orgasm is achieved regardless of sex and orientation.
Learn About Sexuality presents the facts and logical reasoning to explain our sexual behaviours and responses. This book provides parents, teachers adults and children with the appropriate material to build an understanding of some of the sexual issues that may arise throughout our lives.
The scientist who investigates sexual behaviour seems under especial obligation to make his findings available to the maximum number of persons, for there are few aspects of human biology with which more persons are more often concerned. (Alfred Kinsey 1953)