Learn About Sexuality

Intellectual aspects of sexuality

Sexuality is about our motivation to use our imagination to explore sexual fantasies; enjoying the responsiveness of our own body through masturbation alone; and about learning how we can achieve arousal and orgasm alone and with a lover.

The ability to see a partner as a sex object

Arousal is not caused by people as such or by relationships. Arousal relies on being able to see a person, to some degree, as an object. Arousal is achieved when the mind focuses on objects or concepts that a person finds arousing. Arousal mechanisms (turn-ons) involve objects, physical attributes and the psychology of a scenario…

The erotic pleasure a man enjoys from sex

A man’s sex drive is unaffected by relationship issues. A man is attracted foremost by a partner’s physical appearance. He needs to know nothing about a person’s personality, whether she is interesting or kind. His only concern is that she will satisfy his needs through intercourse. A man gives little thought to what a woman…

Differences between men and women’s responses

The key difference between male and female responsiveness is that male orgasm is needed for reproduction. Female orgasm is not. When a man is aroused, he has an erection, which makes penetration possible. Male orgasm triggers ejaculation, which transfers genetic material (spermatozoa) from the male to the female during vaginal intercourse. Men’s sexuality is dependent…

How we know that female masturbation is rare

We can be confident that orgasm is primarily a male phenomenon in humans because female orgasm has always been a mystery. Even in the 1950s, when Kinsey did his research, he commented that many couples had no idea that it might be possible for a woman to experience orgasm. It was immediately assumed that women…

Only men are aroused by the prospect of sex

Humans can remember past events and form associations. So if we enjoy a meal, we remember the experience from the previous time. Even before we sit down to eat we anticipate the pleasure we will enjoy from eating it. Men are aroused in anticipation of intercourse because it provides an opportunity to be a penetrator.…

How women masturbate themselves to orgasm

Female orgasm must be incredibly rare. If it were not, we would not have all the confusion over how it is achieved. So we are never going to have millions of women agreeing on how they orgasm. The best we can hope for is a scientific justification of women’s orgasm techniques. A woman masturbates by…

The mental focus required to achieve orgasm

A person sets out with the intention of achieving orgasm so they know (from experience) how they get turned-on. A man knows what turns him on because male arousal occurs regularly. Men are aroused in similar way regardless of orientation. Men are aroused by sexual opportunities, by nudity and specifically genitals. Men primarily seek to…