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Intellectual aspects of sexuality

Sexuality is about our motivation to use our imagination to explore sexual fantasies; enjoying the responsiveness of our own body through masturbation alone; and about learning how we can achieve arousal and orgasm alone and with a lover.

How women masturbate themselves to orgasm

Kinsey concluded that masturbation was not only the quickest way for a woman to orgasm but also the most reliable way (95% success rate). Kinsey found that female orgasm was more easily achieved, in 4 minutes, compared with 10 to 20 minutes or longer during sex. Research indicates that two out of every five women…

How a woman can interest a man in having sex

Humans (and other primates) have sex much more than is required purely for the purposes of reproduction. So, even men are not motivated by a purely biological drive. There are intellectual and emotional factors. Our minds are aroused to varying degrees by the opportunity to have sex with different sexual partners or in different scenarios.…

Shere Hite published in 1976

Shere Hite was a young graduate who produced a thesis for her doctorate in sexuality. Her research had much lower funding than Kinsey’s and so had to be more limited in scope. Hite circulated a lengthy questionnaire through women’s magazines and to passers-by on the street in the US allowing women to reply anonymously. Few…

Arousal is psychological and arises in the mind

There are three key aspects to responsiveness. These are biological, emotional and intellectual. The biological element is the most vital because it is the basic physiological response that enables a person to orgasm. The vast majority of women do not have the capability to experience orgasm. This is very clear from women’s dislike of eroticism,…

Educated men masturbate more than other men

Few boys masturbate before the onset of adolescence. Only 10% of boys are masturbating by the age of nine and only 13% by ten years of age. Male masturbation frequencies vary significantly indicating not only a range in responsiveness but also the different conscious choices men make over how they enjoy their ‘arousal cycle’ from…

Only some men are motivated to offer foreplay

Alfred Kinsey was an empirical scientist. He liked facts and figures. He categorised people according to their educational level. Kinsey pointed out that sex manuals are often written by middle class educated people who don’t appreciate that their education affects their view of sexuality. He found that more educated men tend to appreciate eroticism: visual…

Similarities between male and female responses

There are some very noticeable similarities between the ways in which men and women approach orgasm techniques. But men are much more flexible in terms of how and when they can orgasm: either alone through masturbation or with a lover through oral sex or intercourse. Women are only able to achieve orgasm through masturbation alone.…