Learn About Sexuality

Emotional aspects of sexuality

Sexuality is about engaging in intercourse (the mating act); non-sexual intimacy & how we feel loved in our relationships; and about our willingness to consent to sexual activity with others.

Few women are sexually proactive with a lover

When we look at the mating behaviours of other animals, we see the female role varying between submitting to an assault by the male to indifferent acceptance. The male mammal thrusts but the female is not expected to provide any stimulation or response. A woman has sex with a person because she loves them or…

Men cannot accept that women are unresponsive

We can talk about responsiveness as a general concept. But responsiveness is evidenced in completely different ways in men and women. Male responsiveness is biological. Men orgasm easily especially when young. Men appreciate the physical: their own body, the body of a lover and physical interaction through sexual activity with a lover. Men notice that…

The story behind the G-spot myth (1982)

In the 1980s, Beverly Whipple and John Perry were teaching women Kegel exercises for urinary stress incontinence. They identified a patch of erectile tissue that can be felt through the front wall of the vagina, directly behind the pubic bone. Whipple and Perry named this the Gräfenberg spot after Dr Ernst Gräfenberg, who wrote about…

Men assume women attract attention to get sex

We can differentiate between turn-ons and come-ons. A turn-on is a sight, sound or behaviour that may cause arousal in some individuals. Turn-ons may exist without an associated intention to arouse. Men often misinterpret these stimuli as come-ons. Women enhance their looks, dress provocatively and behave in a sexually amenable (or provocative) way to make…

Men’s sexual satisfaction relies on having a lover

If you were to order yourself a double vodka, while sitting next to a teetotaller, you might feel like the devil incarnate. But the wonderful thing about sex is that there are no addictive aspects. The key to sex is having an amenable partner. This is the issue of consent. People of both sexes and…

Ego means men overlook what women contribute

Men usually make the first move in dating scenarios, which puts a woman in the position of turning down the men she is not attracted to. Men get used to the fact that they have to put in effort to date a woman. They also get used to the fact that women often give little…

The significance of nudity & being touched

Parents often express embarrassment over the idea that their children might see nudity or sexual activity. But there is no reason why children should be harmed by simple nudity. Children are likely to be curious. It is good that they know what nudity and genitals looks like. Boys may even be aroused by such images…