Sex research, that reveals women’s conclusions, challenges male beliefs about how and when women orgasm. The idea that women orgasm alone rather than with a lover was unpopular. So the approach was quickly abandoned, Men want to know how women can be encouraged to engage in more intercourse. For the same reason, women also want to know how they could enjoy the sexual activity a man expects them to engage in.
Kinsey’s research is ignored because it is suggested that modern women have more success with orgasm. It is implied that new information has helped women and their lovers ensure that female orgasm is guaranteed every time. The new information relates to the clitoris yet no one talks of the clitoris. If intercourse were the answer, then women in the 1950s would also have been expert and there wouldn’t be a ‘problem’ in the first place.
Above all else, there was a need to explain how women might orgasm from intercourse. Then at last after the research highlighting the clitoris (which was obviously considered to be a dead end), the G-spot provided an explanation. For decades, couples searched for the elusive technique that might transform intercourse from an indifferent to an orgasmic act for women. But no one could explain the evolution of female orgasm.
The mechanism is clear. The reason women have this capability is simply because it is a hang-over from the way that the sexes have evolved. Women have a smaller and less responsive phallus (the clitoris) and a residual thrusting instinct. So women achieve orgasm by emulating the male role in intercourse. Psychologically this puts them in the position of being the male penetrator. The mental mechanism is therefore a surreal fantasy where the woman acts as the penetrator. Women do not respond to real-world erotic stimuli (such as nudity) that indicate an opportunity to penetrate another person. They don’t have sufficient responsiveness to experience orgasm as reliably as a man nor an urge to penetrate (sex drive).
Statistical research is useful because it gives us an idea of what activities or experiences are ‘usual’. If we don’t have the ‘average’ experience, it doesn’t make us abnormal. Some people suggest that generalisations are useless because they are not always true. For example, we can say that men are generally taller than women. This is a generalisation but it is also a fact. Generalisations can be useful if we understand that there are exceptions.
The value in using sampling techniques (to ensure that the sample is representative of the general population), is that the finding can be applied to a much bigger population than the original sample. Conclusions can only be extended to the population if the research is based on samples of individuals who are selected in such a way so as to be representative.
Research today makes no attempt to indicate the relevance to the ‘average’ person. There is no justification of the qualifications of the researchers involved, of the political aims of the funders of the research, of the way in which the sample is selected or the size of the sample. Findings from tiny samples are promoted as if they apply to the whole population.
Experts today quote from Alfred Kinsey’s work by asserting that 10% of women never orgasm by any means. They also quote from Shere Hite’s work by reassuring us that only 30% of women orgasm from intercourse. No one explains why the rest of their findings have been ignored.
People seem to think that sex research should always be current. They believe that human sexuality changes from generation to generation, which of course it does not. Each new generation returns to the ignorance of their forebears but the truth needs to be available for those who value it. There has been no research done on the same scale since Kinsey. No one is even willing to fund the same kind of research. This is a travesty that should be rectified. The respect needs to be put back into sex research.
No one seems to appreciate the need to differentiate between sex education and erotic fiction. Evidence is critical to any scientific understanding of a subject. There are no research findings that indicate that women orgasm with a lover. The research indicates that female orgasm is primarily associated with a woman masturbating alone. The belief that a woman should orgasm with a lover is simply an assumption. And it’s wrong!
… the mysterious G-spot … I found it irresponsible to claim the existence of an entity that has never been proven, using in some cases a cohort of just 30 women worldwide. (Andrea Burri 2011)