While 50% of men are straight only 4% of men are exclusively gay. Some men are aroused by both sexes and many men (37%) have had at least one gay encounter that ended in their own orgasm. Many of these are one-offs or sporadic. Some men resist homosexual urges because of the taboo.
Women typically get on well with homosexual men. Gay men often have the social skills that women appreciate but straight men tend to lack. Homophobia is largely down a certain kind of heterosexual man, who disrespects men (and women) for being on the receiving end of penetrative sex. Modern films often make references to the (grossly exaggerated) occurrence of prison rape, thereby perpetuating unjustified prejudice. Men who vilify gays may be repressing their own predilection for homosexuality.
Men wouldn’t be so happy if someone was pushing to penetrate their orifices (mouth or anus). This probably explains the prejudice against homosexual men. Neither would men be so happy if society was full of naked male bodies posted on every street corner with close ups of penis and testicles. Nor would men be very happy with unrealistic images of male sexual performance. Women are expected to be immune to parallel images of their own sex. Some women find it offensive that women’s breasts and vaginas are posted everywhere. It’s not a turn-on for women.
When men disrespect their male companions, they call them ‘ladies’. This implies that they are not men but people who are being indulged with special privileges because they are more vulnerable than men. One reason heterosexual men disrespect gay men is because one partner must be willing to be the receiver of intercourse. Men respect foremost the biological role of being the penetrator. But also this recognises the fact that the penetrator obtains the satisfaction and pleasure of penetration and thrusting until ejaculation.
Gay men tend to be highly promiscuous and focused primarily on genital techniques. Sexual pleasure is based on physical gratification. The law tends to focus on anal intercourse rather than homosexuality (lesbians apparently threaten no one). In Britain the Buggery Act of 1533 legislated for consenting adults to be punished (by death until 1861) for what they did in private and reflects the massive taboo surrounding anal sex. It was only after The Sexual Offenses Act (1967) that consenting adult men (over the age of twenty-one) could legally have anal sex in private. For a time in the UK we then had the incongruous situation where anal intercourse was explicitly legalised for gay men but not for heterosexuals.
In 1994 The Criminal Justice and Public Order Act established equality once more by setting the age of consent at 18 for all homo- and heterosexual activity (later lowered to 16 by the Sexual Offenses Act 2003). Anal intercourse was thereby legalised (implicitly) for heterosexuals to legislate for sexual equality rather than as a response to demand from heterosexuals.
Heterosexuals, confident of the moral support of society, often condemn anal sex. It is inappropriate to be judgmental about activities that other consenting adults may find pleasurable. Note: STD protection and contraceptives still required. There is a heterosexual self-righteousness in the belief that ‘love-making’ is more morally justifiable than the explicit sexual pleasuring enjoyed by gays and men who pay for sex.
Groups such as gays, transsexuals and so on represent a tiny proportion of the total population. But we often have the impression that they are everywhere and that their numbers are increasing. These minority groups have a political motivation to be recognised by society that far outweighs their relative numbers in the population. Intersex (people with genitals of both sexes) are incredibly rare.
Transsexuals are people (most typically men) who would like to be the opposite sex. They cannot change their sex because this is decided at birth but they can have surgery or hormone treatment that changes their bodies. This is not about responsiveness but about behaviour. Research indicates that the numbers of homosexuals in the population does not increase over time. Many of the other sexual designations e.g. transvestites involve sexual behaviours not responsiveness so their numbers can increase.
Research indicates that only 29 per cent of women with homosexual experience have sex with more than two partners and only 4 per cent have had more than ten partners. This contrasts with homosexual and bisexual men where a high proportion have sex with many different men and 22 per cent who have had more than ten partners.
This means that homosexual responses had occurred in about half as many females as males … Many of the males had been highly promiscuous, sometimes finding scores or hundreds of sexual partners. (Kinsey 1953)